You are not mediocre so stop feeding your excuses

This is not your typical feel-good motivating article about your 'unlimited potential'; instead, it's more about addressing the facts that you are missing out.

This article asks a simple question: Do you know where you are heading?

It's okay you are unsure about your destination; it's okay if you are confused with your way but do you have a complete realization of what is on walking upon NOW

Just a mere assumption that someday, something will happen is not going to work. Even if it works in a few cases, it won't last long or give the kinds of contentment one expects.

To assess yourself correctly, you need to get a few things right about you, and these things are constant for everyone.

1. We spent most of our days on 'Auto-mode.'
2. Everyone has their own set of preferences.
3. What works for A might not work for B
4. We get better on things we spent most time upon

Now, let's start the real work. Spare some time out for yourself and answer a few things. List out your day and see how it is going.

First Question: See how many things you are doing just on Auto mode; I am not telling you to change them but only and ask how much involved are you in those activities.

While brushing, eating, driving, are you entirely concentrated on the task you are doing, or is your mind wavering all over the place. It would help if you answered this earnestly.

Second Question: You feel agitated or angry about how another person is reacting or behaving, write it down that the other is acting just like you.

In other words, he is doing things that are pleasing him or are good for him.

If you are irritated by their actions, there is the possibility that others in the room feel the same about you. Keep this in mind that you can only control or change your behavior, so let that anger go.

Third Question: Are you busy comparing your lives with others? If no, very good, if yes, you are trouble because you are letting go if your power and skills on something that is not worth at all. 

So write down your thoughts and ask what will benefit you most: your comparison with someone else or your comparison with your own self. 

Trust me, when you are putting these things on paper, magic happens.

Fourth Question: And this is where we cover it all. Ask clearly what are things you are spending most of your time own. 

When you are with your family, how much are you interacting? How must time are you spending browsing your scrolls on different platforms? How much time do you speed spend on binge-watching?

This introspection will give a little glimpse of who are you? and if you don't like that person you see, all you need to do is, make a CHANGE

To introduce that change, again pull that peace of sheet and write in front of these questions:

First Exercise: In the moment you are in, what are the things you can control and then focus on only those things.

For example: While driving, what is best thing you can control, obviously your road sense, so only focus on that.

The meeting you are worried about starts in 30 mins at this minute in time you are on your vehicle so practice that focus. 

Its a great exercise when perfected and reap you unlimited benefits.

Second Exercise: Stop judging people around you, they are doing what everyone including you is doing, finding that comfort spot to fit in.

Just practice to let go things. The words that reach your ears mustn't entertain your thoughts if you feel they are brining no value to you. 

You might say its hard, but here I want to take you back to first exercise, once you get good at it, you will find managing this easier.

Third Exercise: Write down the list or the names of people or profiles you are comparing your lives with and now answer why you think your life is less satisfying in comparison to them.

Now, no matter how you want to swing this, the deeper reality is that you feel you are short of the mark because it is YOU who are in this riddle. 

You are the one who has believed in your own limitations and are exaggerating your doubts. 

Stop that immediately. Again with better focus you will be able to dodge out these concerns about yourself.

Fourth Exercise: Last but not the least, write down the things you want to get better upon. 

It can be your relationship, health, or anything and draw out a plan for how you can cut out the time from other non influential activities and invest time in that plan.

Better focus will help you as well. Keep a regular time table and check every night where did you spend your most time on.

Friends, no matter what your situation in life is a good journaling can help you come out of anything. You have an incredible potential that only comes into play only when you invite it.

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