You May Be Insecure If.... Confidence Series Part 14

Competition is good.

It keeps us on our toes, forces us to keep progressing, and helps us cross the finish line. However, when all of your focus and energy is spent trying to outdo others, no matter the cost, it can be harmful to your growth. Instead, focus more on yourself, take it one step at a time, one day at a time. Compare your day to the previous one, and make adjustments along the way. I’ve developed a habit of daily reflection by asking myself, “What could I have done better today?” Usually, I think of things like a meeting I attended, a conversation I had with my boss or a co-worker, a presentation I gave, or how well I did as a dad (not necessarily in that order). I don’t beat myself up about something I could have done?differently. Rather, I think about how I can improve it the next time.

Do you know someone so competitive that it’s difficult for them to be happy for others when they succeed? They are constantly competing with others, in everything. This may be an area of insecurity. “Do not envy another person’s success more than you study it,” wise advice from Dr. Keith Johnson. You can accelerate your progress by doing what other successful people do.

Those who study champs, become champs.

According to The Confidence Makeover, you may be insecure in this area if:

• You tend to keep score in life.
• You will do anything to win.
• You tend to be ungrateful.
• You tend to be unteachable.
• You tend to get jealous of recognition.
• You tend to be prideful.
• You tend to be critical and judgmental.
• You tend to live a self-centered life.

Comparing yourself to others is not fundamentally wrong. It can be a valuable measure of where you are and where you'd like to go. But if you’re continuously competing with everyone, you may become discouraged to the point you stop moving forward and stumble while you're looking at others. Run your race like an olympian- eyes out front and no looking back.

Confidence Key: Run your race. Beat your?best time. Cross your finish line.

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