YOU Make a Guy Fall in Love

Love may feel magical, mysterious, and inexplicable, but it isn’t as random as it seems—there’s actually hard science behind it.

This is why we feel instantly drawn to some people but couldn’t care less for others. Why some people hold our interest after that initial attraction, while others don’t. There is a science behind attraction and what causes us to not only be attracted to someone, but to continue to feel strongly for them.

Yes, a lot of the time things flow so naturally it’s hard to imagine there are real, rational, concrete things going on behind the scenes causing those butterflies, and that is how relationships should feel.

You should never force a relationship, and you can’t make someone feel a certain way if they just don’t … but you may be able to tip the scale in your favor and help Cupid along by doing certain things that will increase his attraction to you and keep him interested.

Familiarity breeds attraction. The more you see someone, the more attracted they will become to you. This goes regardless of how attractive you actually are or how attractive they initially found you.

There is something about a familiar and friendly face we appreciate.

We’ve always been told that first impressions are what matters and that for guys especially it’s a yes or no right away when it comes to women. But attraction really isn’t a fixed thing.

We know that someone’s personality can make them more attractive to us, but it takes time to get to know someone. They obviously have the same face before and after you discover they have a fantastic sense of humor or are super smart, making them more attractive.

In the same way, studies show that just seeing someone frequently can boost how attractive you think they are.

What to do:

Get some face time with him. Do this only if it can be done naturally; don’t be a stalker and show up at places where you think he’ll be … well, don’t do that too often anyway!

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Thank you ….Its fine if, for example, you were invited to a birthday party and normally wouldn’t have gone, but you know he’ll be there, so that changes your mind. Because as far as anyone knows, you’re there for the party and not to see him. But know when to take a hint.

If you see him a lot and he’s had ample opportunity to take things to the next level and he isn’t doing so, it’s because he doesn’t want to. Familiarity breeds attraction, but it can also breed contempt. Remember there are two sides to every coin, and you need to go with what your gut is telling you, not just blindly follow a series of steps.

Seeing him a lot can make him more attracted to you, but how can you make him feel that spark, that connection? Mirroring his body language can help. Mirroring is something we subconsciously do when we like someone. You cross your arms, he crosses his, he leans in, you lean in, and so on.

Just because you normally do this subconsciously doesn’t mean you can’t do it on purpose: you can create feelings of closeness by mirroring him as a way of saying I like you and I feel the same way you do.

The reward centers in our brains light up when someone we’re interacting with mirrors our body language, regardless of how attractive we find them. It’s thought this is because when selecting a mate, it’s optimal to find someone we can easily understand and cooperate with, and someone “speaking” the same body language makes us feel we’ve found our match.

Open Up to Him

Being a little vulnerable and sharing bits of our authentic selves can create a sense of closeness, and it’s what paves the way for forming a truly intimate connection.

Self-disclosure is the key to making people like you, and this goes beyond just romantic relationships. People who disclose more personal things about themselves tend to be more liked than people who don’t. Also, it goes both ways, because once we disclose more personal things to others, we like them more, too.

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What to do:

Be real with him. Open up a little more than you normally would. Emphasis on a little. Don’t let all your skeletons out of the closet or overwhelm him with TMI.

Just be a little more authentic. If he asks what you do for work, tell him and maybe explain why your job is meaningful. Or if you don’t like your job, be honest about that and what you wish you could be doing, without going into full-complain mode. All basic questions have multilayered answers. So just peel back a little and give him more than the surface exterior.We naturally want to touch people we like, and most of us like being touched, so it’s probably no surprise that touching has been shown to build attraction.

There are real science-based reasons for this: Touch can cause a chemical reaction within us and change how we feel about someone else. In the early stages of a relationship, touch causes a rush of dopamine that makes us feel high (love really is a drug!)

In one study, touching coupled with eye contact caused elevated heart rates and increased desire, and in another, it only took brief touches to increase likeability and attraction.

Touch remains important throughout a relationship. As time goes on, touch doesn’t fill us with as much lust, but it creates feelings of bonding and comfort.

Your Comments……

Don’t hang all over him, but try to increase physical contact. If you’re in a relationship or dating, cuddle, hold hands, and hug. Research shows that face touching and hand-holding were considered more intimate than other forms of touch, so if you’re trying to increase intimacy, keep that in mind.

If you’re not a couple yet, find subtle ways to touch him and see how he reciprocates. Brief touches are good and have been shown to make a difference.

Live a well-rounded life. Live for you—not a man.

What do you care about?

How do you like to spend your time?

What do you find interesting?

Don’t obsess over relationships or depend on men or having a man around to gain your sense of worth. This just creates pressure for them to be your all, and nobody wants that kind of pressure.

You doing you is interesting. If you think there’s potential with him, take it up a few more notches by trying out some of these science-based ideas.

I hope this article gave you some insights into what makes a man fall for a woman. But there’s more you need to know. Capturing his interest is one thing, keeping it is another! Do you know what makes a man want to commit to a woman and what makes him see her as “the one”?

Also, in every relationship, there will come an inevitable point where he starts to pull away and seems to be losing interest. He’s not as excited by you, the spark seems to be fizzling, and you feel like you’re losing him.

 Do you know what it means and how to respond?

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