You are loved, always.

You are loved.

22nd April, 2022

Happy Friday! Last week as the kids had their Spring Break,?I was off for a few days and had my down time, bringing them to the zoo with a group of friends, having a play date and?hanging out with the other moms at a friend's place, and visiting Jersey City where we had been living for four years before moving to New York. The down time came after two days of working hard on revising my manuscript. Feeling recharged afterwards resulted in a highly productive week this week?continuing working on the book. Hope you had some?down time of your own as well since we last talked via this Happier YOU Letter two weeks ago!

In today's Letter, I wanted to talk about love, a very topic at the centre of being human and of being authentically happy. It was inspired by an email update from a client who graduated from my Career Happiness Infinity Program and then Entrepreneurship Fast Track Mentoring Program about her recent?wildly successful workshop on love that she delivered yesterday. I was also inspired by?a message I received from a friend last week. Here goes the story behind it.

About two months ago, I saw?a good friend's?Facebook status update, which prompted me not to comment and not to click on a reaction. I shot her a message instead and asked if she needed some professional help which I would be more than willing to guide her to and connect her with my network.?

A day later, she messaged me back and said she felt better.?

And last week, when we checked in with each other, she shared with me one of the?messages I sent?did help her feel better and she thanked me for that. That message was?"You are loved, always."

In our life, even when you?are said to be and consider yourself to be a happy, optimistic and positive person who always show up full of energy and?confident, there are times when you feel fragile. You find yourself suddenly in a dark sad place where you don't feel you are loved, you don't feel your self-worth, you don't feel you are seen, you don't feel you are heard, and however hard you try, it's never considered enough.

That's often the time when you face with some setback that serves as a "neutral trigger" activating the maps in your brain relating?to a?deep wound in the past or a strong self-limiting belief hardwired for years. That wound and that belief bring?a voice in your head, "You are not loved. No one loves you." Then you may ruminate further and use that lens?to scan the world around you for the evidence to support that belief further and to give that same meaning to an event, a trigger that doesn't carry that message at all. But you see it that way. And later when you are out of it, you event don't believe you were there: the self-limiting belief, untamed, has become stronger, without you knowing it, making it easier to be activated the next time you encounter another neutral trigger.?

It's just how our very human brain works. And it's normal.

But you can change that unhelpful map in your brain.

And of course,?I myself was?there.

For a happier YOU:

Like one of my clients said, "A happy person is not one who is happy all the times. She also experiences negative emotions but what makes her authentically happy is she is aware of her feelings, tries to understand what they tell her, and grow from them." Each time you tame your own unhelpful thoughts, you become stronger and happier and radiate that true positivity to the world around you.

And many a time, taming such unhelpful thought by reminding yourself, "I am loved, always," and make the conscious efforts to find the evidence to prove it, and even more importantly?sink into them with all of your feelings and sensations, you will find it's true! Remind an upset friend that she is loved always is a good way to help while giving her the space she needs is helpful too.

Our culture doesn't talk about this, but it's important for us to be more aware as not being able to transform our unhelpful thoughts will prevent us?from being truly happy, from unleashing our full potential in life, and from contributing to the world with our unique talents and purpose.

So remember, you are loved always.

Packing soon for a family's trip in upstate New York this weekend,?

Onwards to Happiness Infinity,

Amy Nguyen

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Photos: This is our first spring since we moved into our new home last June and now I think I have a garden :) Collecting flowers from different farms and markets and planting them in the past few weeks made me feel so loved. The flowers, the sun, the fresh spring air love me too.