Are you living in a Loveless Marriage?
Every couple dreams of marital bliss.?
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
From the moment they start planning their wedding till death do them part, they are hoping to live a happy married life.
Like most hopes and dreams, only a lucky few get to achieve them. It takes a lot of sacrifices, hard work, and a lifetime of grinding to reach the finish line.
Most couples start their married life in high spirits, but sometimes, many end up in a loveless marriage.
Harmful habits, negative thinking, and irrational feelings can all lead to sinful behavior and keep you in bondage. If you feel trapped by any of these strongholds in your life, know that you are not alone—you can break free.
Starting their own family, making their own decisions, doing everything together, and so forth sounds like a lot of fun. All of the above is harder said than done.?
Marriage is a risk; I think it’s a great and glorious risk, as long as you embark on the adventure in the same spirit.
Stress builds up, and romance takes a back seat. Even responsible couples find it challenging to find time for each other.?-
What is a loveless marriage?
Loveless marriages are more common than you think, and there are a variety of solutions to ease the dilemma you may find yourself in. What happens in a marriage without intimacy and whether you should stay in a marriage without love?
Love is a very strong emotion. However, if you find yourself asking whether your partner loves you, it indicates there is a problem in your marriage.
Emotional divides that make you question a partner’s love, can be caused by a lack of communication, conflicting values, sexual incompatibility or too much time focusing on the less than pleasing attributes of your partner.
Loveless marriages are horrible. But there is one thing worse than an absolutely loveless marriage. A marriage in which there is love, but on one side only; faith, but on one side only; devotion, but on one side only, and in which of the two hearts one is sure to be broken.
A loveless marriage is simply when you do not feel loved or cared for by your partner. If both you and your partner feel unhappy in the marriage, chances are you are in a loveless marriage.
The spark dying down is one thing, but losing feelings?of wanting their company, being around them, doing certain things to make them happy, etc., can be considered signs of a loveless marriage.
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Thank you?…Why does a marriage become loveless?
When two people decide to get married, nobody thinks or expects that they will fall out of love with each other. However, losing feelings for your partner is not uncommon. This can happen due to a variety of reasons.
Marriage or relationship is not the priority anymore. Maybe their career is taking all their time and energy, or now that you both have kids, all the focus is on them.
The couple has problems adjusting to each other’s personalities, dreams, and goals and end up drifting apart.
A significant event such as adultery, dishonesty, or lying has caused resentment difficult to deal with.
Financial stress, sexual inadequacy, or joblessness can cause one person to fall out of love with the other.
You stop saying “I love you” to each other
One of the most apparent loveless relationship signs is the lack of affection when talking to each other.?
Do you still remember when your relationship was new, and you couldn’t stop saying sweet nothings to each other??
The moment it stops completely is a red flag.
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Every little thing turns into a huge fight
If the first sign signals an unhappy marriage, this sign means that your relationship is at a critical boiling point.?
If little things about your spouse irritate you to the point of madness, it’s time to step back and reassess your relationship.
The moment your spouse becomes a source of hatred, some people turn to something, such as, alcohol, video games, or someone else, for support. If this happens to you, then your marriage is in jeopardy.?
A marriage without love is troublesome, but the moment partners start to love someone, then it’s a sign that the love that once existed in the marriage is no more there.
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Staying at home is stressful
A person should view their own home as a refuge.?
It doesn’t matter if the person lives alone or with a big family. The ideal home life is a place where one rejuvenates and gets away from worldly problems.?
The moment your home, particularly your spouse, becomes a source of stress, then your relationship is not working out.?
The moment you find yourself making excuses to avoid going home, including really working overtime, it’s a sign you are stuck in a loveless marriage.
Build emotional connection and enhance feelings of attraction with your partner.
Yes, I know this is easier said than done. But it can definitely be achieved with the correct knowledge and technique.
Remember: you are 100% responsible for your life and the outcomes within it. You chose to date your partner; you decide how you interact with them; you made the decision to marry your spouse. These were your decisions.
Your choices are your responsibility, but it doesn’t mean you should blame yourself or your partner when things aren’t going as they should. You just need to make a few adjustments to how you are showing up within your relationship.
Your spouse is not responsible for your happiness. Only you are responsible for your happiness.
If you indulge in thoughts about being in a loveless marriage, you will continually trigger yourself emotionally and therefore feel unmotivated toward the very actions of bonding.
Marriage is just one way to make your life happier, and that’s only when it is maintained with the right intentions and actions. How you maintain your marriage is up to you.
?It’s your responsibility to build a strong emotional connection with your partner and continue your efforts to enhance attraction over the lifetime of your relationship.
First and foremost, create a more inviting environment for you and your partner. Pay attention to the way you think, act and dress.
Know that your thoughts will always directly influence how you feel.
Start by changing your own thoughts, words and actions from being negatively focused to being focused toward your ideal outcome and, you will create a flow-on effect which directly influences your partner’s behavior.
I understand that your spouse plays a key role in your marriage, but you can only influence your spouse’s actions and feelings; you cannot control everything. In fact, being controlling is the fastest way to experiencing an unhappy and loveless marriage.
Stop blaming your partner for your lack of connection and take action steps each day to reignite attraction. As well as paying attention to how you look and feel, this includes lifting your partner up with appreciation and gratitude for their contribution.
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2 年It’s important to inspire your spouse to invest in your marriage because someone who invests in something expects it to work. For instance, you can ask for her help once in a while, so your partner feels that they are wanted and needed by you. Then, appreciate their effort. When your partner is contributing to your life, and you are showing your appreciation, the emotional connection between you naturally becomes stronger. Secondly, create more shared experiences with your partner. This can be a date night once a week. It can also be having a holiday for two weeks once a year. Or several romantic weekends away. Don’t let your marriage become boring and predictable after the initial excitement of your wedding. Lastly, show your love passionately. In life, you don’t get what you want; you get what you give. Hence, you should show your love first. Tell your husband/wife how much you love him/her and then see how things change. This is Law of Reciprocity.