You Know It's Okay To Say "No" Right?

Some years ago, I used to say yes to everything my friends asked and say so as not to hurt their feelings.?

Although it used to be difficult to fulfil their desires, I tried my best to make them happy instead of making myself happy.?

Then one day I realized it wasn't a healthy habit to be a people pleaser to the detriment of my own mental and emotional health.?

I have decided since then to say "No" when I can't do what is asked of me or give out something that I didn't have at that moment, politely.?

Saying "No" will enable you to better direct your life and is neither impolite nor unpleasant. If you're able to say no, you might communicate with people more honestly.?

You might begin getting requests for the things you are most inclined to accept, which might make you feel less taken advantage of.

Characteristics of a people-pleaser

You find it difficult to pinpoint your desires and needs, and you are extremely sensitive to those of others.

You go through a lot of shame.

You detest conflict. To maintain harmony, you would prefer to agree with what others want.

You're typically overworked. When you don't have the time or resources to decline to take on new projects, you struggle to work late.

You consult with others before deciding.

You might discover that you frequently date or have relationships with controlling, emotionally unstable, or demanding individuals.

Even if you have different opinions, you act as though you agree.

Instead of expressing what you're thinking or feeling, you resort to passive violence, such as silent treatment, victimization, unintentional compliments, etc.

You can change into any social setting like a chameleon.

You frequently function as a therapist for your friends, lover, or family, but you frequently feel spent after these exchanges.

You constantly struggle with the feeling that you aren't "good enough," despite your best efforts to please others.

Why is it advantageous to say? "No"?

In one sense, your help, consideration, and sensitivity to the needs of others are admirable; however, not when they result in the sacrifice of one's own needs.

If you are constantly bending over backwards to satisfy the wants of others, you can never become your actual, honest self.

Each of us has a duty to ourselves to judiciously use the limited energy, time, and resources that we have. Over time, we will just become exhausted if we constantly give to others receiving nothing in return.

Choosing where to focus our time and effort is made possible by saying no. It enables us to concentrate on delivering it to those who deserve it and to the areas of our lives that need it.

If it's your first time saying "no," you need to get used to the thought that you'll first feel bad about it.

When remorse strikes, simply recognise it for what it is and carry on with the task at hand.?

If it helps, you might try visualizing and locking it away in a drawer or cabinet.

Reminding ourselves that we frequently exaggerate the negative impact of our refusals can be beneficial.?

Frequently, we discover those we help are because of our frankness and transparency.?

They're not worth our time and effort if they're not willing to respect our boundaries, either.

A few examples of "No" statements:

• I'm afraid I have a hectic schedule, but that sounds amazing.
• I'm unable to take on anything else.
• I will have to decline this time, even though that sounds like a wonderful opportunity.
• I appreciate your concern, but I can't take this one.

This week I encourage you to stop saying 'Yes' to everything and anything.?

Practice the act of saying 'No' and see how happy you will feel.?

You Know you have the power to say 'No' right??

Fruitful and Peaceful Week #linkedinfamily.