Are you an “Interrupter?”
Julienne B. Ryan
Author, Keynote Speaker, Narrative Storyteller, Facilitator, Coach & Podcast Host
The neighborhood rooster didn’t get the memo about Daylight Savings Time last week.
It’s bad enough that he usually commences crowing 5 am on the dot everyday with out fail.
However, when we turned our clocks back for Daylight Savings Time last week, 4 am became his new “go time.”
Mr. Rooster interrupted. Mr. Rooster and also roused my husband, who reacted with a Crumlin-Dublin expression. Then because my husband is is a MAN, he was able to turn his brain off and went back to sleep.?
Not me. I lay there thinking about the Mr. Rooster and my go-to mantra, “ I will use this experience for something.”
Most of us are also guilty of this annoying habit, whether we like to admit it or not. Unlike Mr. Rooster, who interrupts the neighborhood’s sleep patterns because of Mother Nature’s programming, Humans can increase our self-awareness and do something about it.
So, I thought about how Mr. Rooster had brought my attention to a challenge that we experience during our daily conversations?—?interruptions.
What triggers our need to interrupt?
People interrupt for a variety of reasons, including:
What happens when we interrupt someone?
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. Interrupting can make others feel irritated, frustrated, or angry.?
. It can also make people feel disrespected and
. make the interrupter appear rude or egotistical.
. It could influence the other party’s interest in having future conversations.
What actions can we take to minimize and avoid our need to interrupt?
· You can begin your conversation agreeing on how you will let the other person know you’d like to make a point. ( ie. You will put your hand up or lift a pen?—?aka have manners)
· To reduce interruptions, try waiting a second after someone finishes speaking before you speak.
· You can also take a note if you’re worried that you’ll forget what you wanted to say
. Use your energy to listen
· You can also practice thinking, “Nothing I plan to say is so important that it can’t wait for a few minutes.”
Set ground rules for your selve and others and learn more about the art of listening!
NOTE - Please visit my website at jryanpartners.com/blog to view this article's resources and additional information about how to conduct reasonable conversations so you can develop and sustain productive relationships.
EVP and CFO at Arch Capital Services Inc
3 个月Love this, Jules. Very helpful to use the rooster as the interrupter.
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4 个月Great article, Julienne B. Ryan, I love that you took the experience and did something with it! So relevant to what we do at Narativ Inc when we prepare people to listen before telling a story. We often think we have to get coached or ready to perform when we know we're going to be called on to speak. However, it's the listening that needs coaching. Your article's examples of why people might interrupt are a wonderful resource to investigate how we listen at any given time. Thank you!
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4 个月As we get older/more mature...we realize we do Not need to interrupt others and their viewpoints-many Selfish people I have found-was in straight commission Real Estate Sales-met with hundreds- eventually Learned to intently Listen and clarify what others were saying -All of us want someone to just Listen to Us(even for a shorter time)-most Failed in Sales-their Listening skills were not up to Par-they were probably Selfish lol
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4 个月Love this! I grew up with a neighborhood rooster too—one that crowed all day and night. It really did interrupt everything! ?? Thanks for the flashback and the reminder to tame our own “inner roosters”!
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4 个月Great tips on minimizing interruptions!