Are You a Hero or a Victim?

Are You a Hero or a Victim?

Changing the Narrative

Today, like most days, I woke up scared with a narrative running through my head making the anxiety worse to the point I am making myself sick. I was the victim with no power to change my circumstances because no one cared if I ...

The only person who can change my situation is ME and I can only do it by switching from victimization language to hero language within my mind, my words, and my actions.

I share this because I know that you have some version of this story rolling around in your head every once in awhile. If you, like me, want to change from victim to hero you need to start with changing the story you tell yourself.


We all have victim moments ...
It's what you do about it that matters.


Let's take a look at the victim / hero thought process.

"No one cares if I ..."

  • Victims wallow in self pity and believe their value is determined by others.
  • Heroes find value in their action by helping others and contributing to the group

By changing the narrative from, "No one cares if I ... " to "I care about..." and then take action to move towards what you care about, you become the hero of the story. Will it pay the bills?

No guarantee your life will be easier...

Heroes don't have an easy go of it. They carry the weight of the world on their shoulders and work to help others without expecting anything in return, so they can have more problems than a victim. Like victims, they struggle to keep going. The difference is their narrative is one of hope for a better tomorrow. They are actively looking for solutions not looking for problems. Obstacles are something to go through, not a wall that stops them.


Heroes don't look to others to solve their problems. They find solutions.


Victims only see obstacles not solutions.

When victims use blanket statements like, "No one cares...", they negate the feelings of those who love them and want the best for them. They lie to themselves to justify staying in their cocoon and doing nothing to improve their lot in life. It's not their fault, it's because no one cares if they ...

Heroes don't play the blame game beyond blaming themselves for failing. Heroes take responsibility for their actions, choices, and words. They move forward trying different doors until they finally find the right one. Heroes don't give up.

Heroes need heroes

The self blame trap heroes fall in can lead them on the path to victim. Every hero has a breaking point and when they've reached it, they slide down into the victim pit, which takes a lot of strength to pull yourself out.

Help a Hero: If you have a hero in your life, drop them a note of gratitude to let them know their efforts were noticed and appreciated. Talk to them and listen for clues to how you can help them to make their lives a bit easier. It can be as simple as bringing them coffee to picking up their dry cleaning. It doesn't take much to lift up a hero and give them the power to move forward.

Your Language

Does your narrative fall on the side of victim or hero?

Need help changing your narrative? Stay tuned to find out how I can help you go from victim to hero by changing your narrative. Sign up for the APeeling email newsletter to make sure you don't miss a thing.


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