You Feel Bad Because You Don't Know Your Emotional Destination

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As a neuropsychologist, I work with high performing leaders, smart parents, and committed couples. On paper, they have it all. They got the answers. They got the training. They got the 'reasons.'

What they don't have is an effective understanding of how to use their brains to change their emotions.

If you’re feeling exhausted from trying so hard but getting little return, it’s because you’re putting your energy in the wrong place. Your brain constructs your reality based on the energy of your emotion. Reflect on the following questions:?

Have you been successful enough?

• Do you have enough time??
• Enough money??
• Do your colleagues respect you enough?

The answer to all these questions depends on how you feel about it.

If there’s 1 thing I hope you take away from today’s post, it’s this: If you feel repeatedly stuck, it’s because?you’re focusing too much on the situation and too little on your emotional destination.

You don’t actually care about the situation. You care about the emotion.

This is true of your team, too. The top predictor of employee engagement is whether employees feel their work is meaningful. Meaning is an emotional construct. Things like salaries, promotions, and bonuses all come down to value, and value is emotional.

To lead powerfully, you must know what to do about emotion—both your own and the emotions of the people who depend on you. The most powerful expression of your leadership depends on an integrated brain, a brain that knows what it feels and feels what it knows.

While people already understand that the brain both thinks and feels, most people think these are separate functions of the brain. It’s the idea that ‘sometimes, I’m emotional but other times, I’m logical.”??

This is not actually how the brain works.?

Cognitive and affective circuits in the brain are inseparable. The ways you ‘logically’ make decisions, solve problems, pay attention, and remember are all inextricably linked to how you feel.?The more you deny emotion, the more you undercut the power of your leadership.

Energy Rising gives you 8 actionable roadmaps that show you how to use your brain to transform your leadership. Leadership is about relationships and relationships are about emotion. Energy Rising shows you the neuroscience of building emotionally extraordinary teams.

If you're interested in the neuroscience of leading, I hope you'll consider pre-ordering Energy Rising. Pre-orders matter because they communicate to retailers—like Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and indie bookstores—what topics you care about. Pre-Order Energy Rising today.

The early reviews are coming in and they've been so moving to see. Here are a couple below!

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AMAZING NEWS ABOUT ENERGY RISING!

1. Inc. Magazine names Energy Rising 1 of 5 books to transform your leadership: www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/5-books-on-leadership-that-will-transform-how-you-run-your-business.html. ?
2. Named best of HR books: https://www.hrmagazine.co.uk/content/features/best-of-hr-books-august-2023
3. Energy Rising helps you overcome anxiety and micromanagement: https://hbr.org/2023/09/the-anxious-micromanager
4. Energy Rising goes global: the book is being translated into Arabic and Vietnamese!

I had a great time talking to Fast Company, Forbes, Fortune, Salon Media Group, Inc. Big Think. Fortune Quartz and more! Thanks to Marshall Goldsmith, Harvard Business Review and many others for their support!