Are you Exhausted? (Xmas Respite?)

Are you exhausted?

Exhausted from trying? 

From failing?

From having to face yourself in the mirror and still not being where you thought you’d be a year ago?

And you know you’ve tried it all and it didn’t work.

Might work for others but not for you. 

Something’s wrong with your body. 

Metabolism probably. 

Your body is just different so it’s harder for you to lose weight. 

And quite frankly, you just can’t be bothered anymore. 

Not trying means no failing, simple as. 

PLUS who’d want to start changing their eating habits around CHRISTMAS? 

That’s impossible, right!? 

You gotta enjoy yourself for Christmas.

 And enjoying yourself certainly means to eat as much as possible. 

To get pissed because that WILL make you feel better.

Not in the long run, no, but definitely for the moment and for now that’s good enough.

 Sometimes you gotta live in the moment, right?!

Bloated ft. hungover

So Christmas is when you stuff your face BIG TIME. 

Christmas is when you should feel bloated and like a stuffed turkey.

And on Boxing Day you have to wake up with a hangover. 

Always have, always will. 

Always have, always will….that’s it, isn't it!? 

It’s such a familiar tradition that it feels like the right thing to do. 

Your family does is so it’s right…or at least not wrong. 

Your friends…I mean everybody is just all about enjoying themselves in the form of lots and lots of food and alcohol so you can’t help but join in. 

I won’t even mention New Year's Eve, because of course, you have to have at least five drinks. 

I mean c’mon…you want to enjoy yourself after all, right!?

Now I want to challenge you to really explore in your mind on how you really feel about those Christmas and new year traditions.

How does it feel?

Think back on how you really feel, when you are loosening your belt. 

When you HAVE to sit down, when you just feel like taking a nap and when you feel like you didn’t really do your body a favour. 

You’re getting lazy and drowsy. 

And now I want you to imagine how it would feel if you just ate the right amount. 

A plate...ONE plate of that roast dinner. 

And a desert. 

ONE DESERT

 but that one dessert you actually enjoy. 

You take your time to really taste it and you’re not in a rush to have another one because you pay full attention.

 To that one dessert and it will be enough because your body won’t need anymore.

 You can focus on the people around you and Christmas won’t be about eating but about companionship and about enjoying the time with your loved ones. 

And you will have a drink.

 One, maybe two and as you pay attention to the signals that your body sends you, you might discover, that that will be enough. 

You won’t feel like you’ve missed out…

 because you haven’t. 

You won’t feel guilty about putting your body into a state…

because you haven’t. 

In control

So which version do you prefer?

Now I know that feeling.

 That overshadowing thought that you won’t be able to choose option 2 because the temptation is too great. 

Because you don’t trust yourself. 

But I want to remind you that you CAN BE IN CONTROL if you DECIDE to. 

You’re making decisions every single day.

 Some are little and unimportant, others are followed by great consequences. 

Point is, you’re very capable of making decisions and sticking to them in all areas of your life. 

That includes food and health choices. 

You are in control. 

At the end of the day, it will be a result of your choices, where your path leads you. 

Falling into acceptance 

Now to refer to the title of this post.

The damn exhaustion. I know it well, my friend.

 Some days I was so exhausted of being stuck in this damn loop of trying and failing that I just felt like giving up. 

“Fuck it! I’m just supposed to be big. 

There’s always a big one and it just happens to be me. 

No worries…I can live with it.”

I snapped out of it and I hope, so will you. 

Snap out of acceptance and realise that being overweight and unhealthy is not the assigned by lot…you CAN choose a different path for your life.

So instead of accepting your failure, how about you start accepting that you can be in control, once you choose to.

Tools

Over the years, I’ve had mentors.

 Some helped…

 others not so much… 

But even I (and I can be a pain in the ass when it comes to admitting that I need help) had to seek help every now and then. 

Now different Coaches have different backgrounds, skills, experiences. 

They can provide certain tools that can help you make that one change in life.

My personal strength is that I’ve been there, done it. 

I’ve done the late night feasts, felt the shame afterward. 

I know all the tricks and little lies that you tell yourself AND I know how to beat it and how to kick the habits in the dick!

 I know how to help the hopeless because I was the worst…the most skilled in self-deception.

And it does help to have someone looking over your shoulder and shining some light on your blindspots…

you know…

That shitty little story you’re trying to sell yourself but deep down know that is is keeping you from reaching your goal in the long run.

Feel free to seek advice and support. 

This may be a long journey,.. 

But it is easier with a map and a guide…

…and it will be worth it. 

To your health

A.