Are You Emotionally Mature?

Maturity,?as per?dictionary ,?is not a matter of age, but instead, of how you choose to respond and react to various life situations. It is essentially?a level of mental development or wisdom that has a bearing on all areas of an individual's life, right from their conduct to their relationship with others.?Maturity: an essential characteristic?possessed by the?leaders, does not just come with age?only. It is a goal they work to achieve.

Mental health is synonymous with maturity, and it is born of responsibility. People with maturity have learned to accept that not everything in life is going to be their way, show up in the way they thought it would and nor will the world change on its axis to make them happier. The only way to live a more fulfilling, successful and purpose-driven life is when the choice is made to fully develop and live the attitudes and principles of a matured person.?

To?understand this in detail, here?is a list of those attitudes and principles.

1. Self-Mastery

Mature people are passionate about self-development and understanding the need of both internal and external development. They are open to learn and apply the principles they gain from their explorations in personal development to all areas of their life. This type of growth-mindset keeps mature people living more conscious and aware lives.

Mature individuals typically work along side with the people like therapists to coaches to keep them in check and on the path to living a life they love. Through self-mastery mature people learn the art of turning life's lemons into lemonade.?

2. Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to understand, use, and manage our feelings for the purpose of reducing stress, communicating effectively with others, empathising with them, and overcoming challenges.

Emotional intelligence can assist us in building stronger relationships, achieving success in life, and achieving career and personal goals. Also, it can help us connect with our feelings, act on our intentions, and make informed decisions regarding our life goals.

3. Positive Attitude

Having a positive attitude means being?optimistic about situations, interactions, and ourselves. People with positive attitudes remain hopeful and see the best even in difficult situations.?A positive attitude comes naturally to the mature people. They have faith in the concept that with enough hard work, patience and persistence things will work out.?

This type of attitude keeps mature people in a state of harmony with themselves and others because from their vantage point there is a way to make every situation a win-win experience. They have mastered the principles of being in mutually beneficial relationships and staying out of relationships which do not serve them or their highest good.

4. Self-Responsibiilty

This character trait of self-responsibility is synonymous with self-accountability. Accountability literally means “account-ability,” that is, owning the ability to account for our own lives. To be self-accountable means to be answerable for the obligations and duties we have in our life. ?

Anyone who is self-accountable answers fundamentally to him/herself in honouring a code of living, ethics and integrity. It is actually pretty simple, and clearly not an easy mark to ever approach, more or less fully inhabit this vision, and we can.

5. Flexibility

In life, it’s all too easy to assume things will go according to our plans, or that a situation or event will go smoothly because it has each time in the past. When it doesn’t (and that is often a “when” than an “if”, an emotionally mature person is able to think things out and come up with a viable Plan B or even C as needed so that a situation can be dealt with, and still move forward not letting the bump in the road ruin the entire plan.

Flexibility can help improve every aspect of our life – your work, relationships, health, family, creativity, success, and more. How flexible are you? For me, it often depends on my mood, how much fear or resistance I have about something, how attached I am to a particular outcome, and various other factors.

Last Word?

In short, maturity is a choice for everyone. The more we value who we are and what weu have to offer, the more responsible we will be in taking care of ourselves, our finances, our time, and our personal life. We can choose to live as a mature person.?Albert Ellis ?says it best,?"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny."

In short, emotional maturity is about our ability to understand and manage our emotions. It’s important to understand that emotional maturity is always an active work in progress. It’s not a situation where a certain level of self-understanding is reached once and then remains static in all situations moving forward. But a keen awareness of what you can bring to the table emotionally to cope with any situation that comes our way.?

About the Author

Muhammad Sajwani ?is the Founder and Managing Director of?Evolve HR ?which aims at transforming,?enriching and evolving Human Capital of Pakistan,?Evolve HR thrives in challenging assumptions that hinder organisational aspirations, by creating innovative solutions that yield maximum impact, scalability & benefit to a wider base of stakeholders.?As a Business Coach and Organisational Consultant, Sajwani knows how to combine business insights with people insights to transform organisations and put them on the path to growth.?

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