You Don’t Need a Man—But Your Son Does
You’re a strong, independent woman.
A single mother who needs no man.
But your son does.
This isn’t about you.
It’s about him.
Boys without fathers struggle.
They’re twice as likely to drop out of school.
More likely to suffer from depression.
More likely to end up in prison.
More likely to take their own life.
This isn’t an opinion. It’s fact.
Richard V. Reeves calls it the boy crisis.
Warren Farrell calls it dad deprivation.
And it’s real.
Boys are falling behind.
In school.
In work.
In life.
But we pretend fatherhood is optional.
That any man can fill the gap.
That a strong mother is enough.
They can't. She isn’t.
Yes, some fathers are
Absent.
Abusive.
Better left behind.
But that’s the exception.
Not the rule.
A good father gives his son discipline.
Purpose.
Self-respect.
He teaches him how to handle failure.
How to channel his anger.
How to stand tall without stepping on others.
And if Dad isn’t there?
That boy will look elsewhere.
Because boys still need men to look up to.
A gang leader.
A YouTuber.
A politician who preys on lost young men.
So who’s raising your son?
Because if it’s not you— And it’s not his dad—
Someone else will.
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2 周I took huge inspiration from the work of Gabor Mate. His talks on attachment in early years and paving the way for your child's future was mind-blowing. Changed how I parent more than anything else I think.
Sadly it's some men who believe fatherhood is optional - this post should be written to absent Dads - not the mothers left picking up the pieces!
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2 周Often, when the negative effects of a father’s absence in a child’s upbringing are discussed, it’s misinterpreted as diminishing the importance of a mother’s role. ? Speaking from my own experience growing up in a broken family, I strongly believe that children need both a mother and a father for a healthy upbringing. The absence of either parent creates a significant void that might cause problems later in life. ? This is a very sensitive but extremely important topic Lewis. Thank you for bringing it up here.
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2 周There is good evidence to show the detrimental effect absent fathers have. As men we've got to encourage our peers to take responsibility and to be there for their children.