You don’t just love your partner on paper, do you?

What do you think about the concept of Unconditional Love? I believe this is very challenging for people because of the expectations that exist in the relationship. They equate love with the other showing up a certain way… If my partner checks off these boxes, then I love them...?Think about this for a second, how crooked is that… We obviously then don’t necessarily love the person but what they do and how they make us feel… How they meet our needs, take care of us, add to our status, and such… So, we actually love them on paper? It seems that way…?

But we know better, don’t we. We just have a philosophical, or practical, depending on how you choose to look at it, issue with the concept of Unconditional Love . Because even though your partner is not perfect, and they might get on your nerves, and maybe are not meeting your needs, you still love them, right? So then why struggle with the concept of Unconditional Love? Owning this will not make your partner be a worse partner- this is not a get out of jail free card. LOL?

What would happen if you embraced the concept of Unconditional Love? If you really approached your partner and your relationship with this lens on and interacted from this perspective as much as possible. If you didn’t focus on your partner’s imperfections. If you didn’t worry about fairness and supposed doubled standards. If you didn’t get hang up on whether your partner apologized. If you didn’t go into your partner’s circle and told them how to be, feel and do. If you didn’t try to make your partner do things the way you would, or the way you want. If you didn’t have expectations of what you should get out of this relationship. And so on…?

~ What if you just loved your partner because they are awesome.?

~ What if you just loved your partner because they are on this Journey with you.?

~ What if you just loved your partner because they are a fellow Human Being existing in this now and in this relationship with you…

What if you became aware of, if you are not already, to the fact that you are actually an energetic being that appears solid and living in this meat suit because we live in a 3D reality and our experience is limited to what we pick up with our senses…?

And, as this energetic being you are actually beyond your mere body, you are actually one with all that is… And so is your partner… AND, as such you are actually ONE…?

You are actually part of the whole Universe, you are part of Unity Consciousness- Love Consciousness…

Do you see the implications of this? There is so much here… For now, let’s highlight this, if you are One,?

~ When you judge, criticize, scorn, control, reject, or shun your partner, you are doing that to yourself as well…?

~ When you don’t like something in your partner, you don’t like that in yourself- might not even be aware you have that…

As soon as you give your partner compassion, acceptance, and freedom- Love, you’ll feel these for yourself…

As soon as you focus on giving yourself compassion, acceptance, and freedom- Love, you’ll feel these from your partner!?

When we open ourselves to this inquiry and possibility, and let go of a lower-self experience of lack (we are missing something), attachments (we need certain outcomes), and control (we need to make the things happen) this is when our suffering ends…

This is what the Practice of Letting Go is about… This is about Trusting… About having Faith…?

These mindsets, egoic patterns…, just create the struggle we are trying to overcome… These are what hold us back from being able to embrace the Unconditional Love we are capable of and that would make everything so much easier…?

~ Lack is driven by believing we are separate and not whole, which leads to sadness, grief, loneliness, aloneness, hopelessness, depression and so on which lead to focusing on fairness and double standards, judging imperfections, self-numbing [flight response…]

~ Attachments are driving by believing we need certainty and certain outcomes which leads to let down, disappointment, resentment, frustration, anger and so on which lead to demanding apologies, owning the other, and getting stuck on expectations [fight response…]

~ Control is driven by believing that we have to make things happen and have to do all the doing which leads to fear, stress, overwhelm, exhaustion, anxiety and so on which lead to over-functioning, micromanaging, doing everything ourselves, not accepting help [freeze response…]

So you see, when we get in our own way with our limited mindset we impact how we feel and experience ourselves, our partner, and the world… Not to mention our nervous system and the rest of our biology and hence our health, and our overall energy and what we are able to manifest…?

Addressing these egoic patterns allows us to more easily embrace Unconditional Love and make our relationship, and whole Human Experience, much more satisfying- more radiant, more divine…?

Here is to embracing Unconditional Love more this month and going forward…

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