You don't have 'triggers'.
As people begin to develop or work on their self-awareness, a common practice is "getting to know your triggers".
Triggers are often described as other people, circumstances, events, behaviour, locations...external stimulus that cause us to have a (usually negative) reaction.
Using the word "trigger" to describe an external stimulus that prompts an internal reaction is at best misleading, and at worst, downright dangerous.
"Trigger" suggests that you're a loaded gun, travelling through life at risk of firing without warning.
Having "triggers" means you're white-knuckling it through your day, hoping that someone or something doesn't set you off.
Being easily "triggered" means that the people around you need to walk on eggshells to avoid pushing your buttons.
If you can be "triggered" to anger or frustration, then you also have to be triggered for joy and contentment...two things you probably shouldn't be outsourcing!
Using the word "trigger" suggests an uncontrollable reaction.
Using the word "stimulus" suggests a response, something that you can manage.
And I think we'd all rather respond to life a bit more, instead of being triggered by it.
Therapist at Calgary Counselling Centre
5 年I appreciate the exploration of language and what I take for granted without questioning. Stepping into power rather than out. Cheers
Registered Provisional Psychologist in Medicine Hat | I help parents of toddlers, preschoolers, and beyond to transform their homes from chaos to calm
5 年Jeff, love this post! It makes so much sense that when we talk about “triggers” we are basically giving up responsibility for control over our actions. Replacing the word “trigger” by talking instead about our thoughts regarding a situation can allow us to take back control over our internal thoughts and emotions and ultimately our responses to those situations. Thanks for sharing ??
Founder of Perfect Pitch Consulting, Author of The Story Compass, Keynote Speaker
5 年I love this, Jeff. Thank you for posting.
Director, Strategy and Communications at Discovery House Family Violence Prevention Society
5 年This is really important - words matter.
Financial Empowerment Facilitator/Financial Coach
5 年I have the same issue with phrases like 'emotional safety' Emotions are not unsafe or dangerous, and we do a huge disservice to people if we encourage them to think that they are. I like to talk about emotional comfort or discomfort and how to respond, instead.?