You Don't Have To

“Great minds discuss ideas

Average minds discuss events

Small minds discuss people.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

Lashon Hara - “Keep thy tongue from evil” psalm 34:14

Harsh generalisations and judgments, especially on social media, are made based on little more than than the lazy sharing of other people’s ideas. Mostly, it is absent minded, and poorly investigated opinions are formed as a force of habit.

But I have noticed a steady increase of keyboard warriors willing to go toe to toe or online, and realised that a long time ago, I made an intentional choice to avoid those sorts of conversations, and if they continued, to swerve away from those people speaking unkindly.

You don’t have to join in with negative conversation, especially if you won’t have any control over the outcome. All it will do is

• Distract your from positive endeavours
• Stifle your creativity
• Waste your time
• Compromise your peace

If we want to live a beautiful, connected life, on a super high vibration, we need to be mindful of what we say, because words cause damage, not just to the recipient; speaking unkindly lowers your mood, and disconnects your heart from the rest of humanity.

The first of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz tells us to be impeccable with our word.

In order to get control of that, we need to get a handle on what we are thinking.

Harsh words, unkind criticism and gossip has a huge impact and has a ripple effect. It pervades into people’s mindset and gets repeated, leaving a trail of unimaginable and unmeasurable damage, even if it was said absent mindedly and without any malicious intent to cause hurt.

If you say mean things in front of children, don’t be surprised when they replicate your behaviour.

By practicing compassion and keeping love in your heart, you will automatically reduce any negative words you speak, because they won’t be on your lung and then on your tongue. Why would you want to think those things anyway?

If you grew up around a significant person of influence, who was constantly criticising others, who always saw the negative aspects of plans, people, events, ideas etc, you may have developed a habit, which upon closer examination, may not actually belong to you. This is seriously worth taking some time to meditate on.

You might not be as mean as you think - or it may not be the true you thinking the mean things - besides, you are not your thoughts anyway - to go deeper with this, you will need to take some time to commit to self exploration.

Meanwhile, if you notice yourself being unkind in any way, for any reason at all, and you don’t feel great about it, forgive yourself first, then commit to 24 hours of deliberate kindness, and see how much more calm, relaxed and peaceful you feel within. If you notice you’ve said something you don’t like, do not berate yourself, but allow yourself to recalibrate and try again.

Examine how you speak to yourself. Kindness starts right inside. Practice speaking to yourself as you would the precious and innocent child of someone you love…

Each and every one of us has a precious, innocent and curious child inside. Speak to him or her with love, patience and forgiveness. Imagine? your inner child connecting with everyone’s inner children around you in a similar way to build your empathic intelligence into a super power.

If you want to attract and then stay connected to the kindest and most enlightened people in your world, remember anyone vibrating highly will rightly deflect negativity or at least offer a kind and constructive viewpoint.

Remember to “Let them.” Not everyone wants to up level their lives and change can be destabilising, even the decision to be more kind can freak people out. So if your people are still being negative, simply continue to show them. If they’re not buying in, then just let them, but it does’t mean you have to be involved.

Stay kind my beauties. Kindness. Mmmm. Sprinkle glitter sparkles of kindness and smiles. Leave a trail of good. Love the shit out of everyone.

Tanya x

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