You are doing the best you can.

When look at others I often think ‘that person is doing the best they can with what they know and with what they’ve got’. My friend questioned this thinking the other day. He commented, surely some people could be better?

We are always changing and learning. For sure. But, think of a time when you did something like shout at a fellow car driver for being slow… in that micro-moment you weren’t for some reason able to access the calmer part of yourself. Could you have been better? Thing is, both you AND the slow driver are doing the best you can at that moment.

Does this mean we shouldn’t try harder? Of course not. My point is with every momentary situation, we do the best we can with what we’ve got. Emotionally, intellectually and environmentally.

Next time you see someone behaving in a way that you compare to your own standards. Think to yourself. They are doing the best they can with what they’ve got. You’ll probably notice it’s better for you to be in compassion than judgement too.