ARE YOU CREATING OUT OF LOVE OR FEAR?

The definition of the word create is to bring something into existence.

By virtue of being human, that makes us all creators.

Whether it is creating content, products, services, relationships, or babies! And so, this makes it a valid question for us all – Are you creating out of love or fear?

My favorite part about coaching is that it isn’t about giving the right answers. Especially because, there usually isn’t one right answer. Creating content may be a good idea for one person and not so much for another. Having a baby may be a dream for someone but a burden for someone else. Therefore, coaching focuses on asking the right questions instead, so that you can find the right answer for yourself.

Here are 5 sample questions you can ask yourself to learn if you are creating out of fear or love?

1.?????What made me want to take the first step to create this?

Did you watch someone else do it and think, I want to do it too? Or maybe you had a dream about it and just had to action it. Whatever your answer, it will tell you more about your ‘why’.

2.?????When I think about creating this, what does my body feel like?

Sometimes our words lie, but our body rarely does. When you think about the process of creating this, does it make your muscles tense? Does it make you smile? Pay attention to those clues. Your body is always trying to tell you something. We just don’t stop to listen.

3.?????What is the risk of not creating this?

Today there is so much we can each create but only so much we can create today. And so, think about what’s at stake if you decide not to do this. Do you feel like you’re missing out? If so, on what really? Dig as deep as you can.

4.?????What does success of this creation look like?

So many times, we begin to do something without really defining what it would look or feel like if it went as per plan. If you don’t do this, then maybe you create a content post, and it gets 100 likes but someone else gets 200 so it wont feel like success even though maybe it is? Define your success first or it will be defined for you and that never ends well. Knowing what you’re chasing also often leads to perspective.

5.?????What does failure of this creation look like?

Sometimes it’s useful to imagine the worst. When you really think about it, maybe it’s not as bad as you had worked yourself up to believe? Or maybe you realize what it is you’re truly afraid of. And that’s a great steppingstone to cross.

A coaching session is a conversation filled with questions much like the ones mentioned above. It is mostly a conversation with yourself. Only you have a partner (your coach) working with you to direct you with the right questions, make room for silence, observe your body language, and every once in a while make an observation to help you dig deeper and get real results via actionable plans.

A lot of my coaching conversations bring up fears because we all carry them with us. Whether it is the more obvious fears of public speaking or the hidden ones of missing out or not doing enough. Creating out of fear not only adversely impacts you, but also your creation. There’s a reason Ma ke haath ka khanna (mom’s home cooked meals) taste the best. The secret ingredient really is love!

This is why I chose FEARS as my project topic for the LinkedIn Accelerator Program . For these 10 weeks, I am talking about one such fear of mine, every week. Come join me and share yours too? Let’s create awareness! And if you’re ready to take action, let’s talk.