You can't do it all...

Growing up on a farm, you pretty much have to do it all. There was just me and my dad and because we had several sections of land and irrigated fields, the work was divided up between us to get it all done. If it was going to get done, I pretty much needed to do it myself.

For a lot of reasons this served me well. When presented with a task of job I took the responsibility to get it done. And the best way to get it done was to do it myself even if some help would make it easier. But that was who I was and I needed to be in charge of it.

That attitude isn't always the best. Sure, I might get it done but it also might take me a while and it might frustrate me in the process. That's a lesson I learned (again!) last week.

I was doing some work on my website and it was frustrating me. I spent a full weekend trying to get it to do a couple things and the more I tried the more I got sucked into the whirlpool of despair and questioning why I was even wasting my time. I wanted to quit. I realized I don't have enough patience with the details of the technology. So I swallowed my pride and hired a pro.

During a coaching session with a client, the topic came up and she mentioned the person she used for her website. I got their email address, checked them out, reached out to them and scheduled a consultation. By the end of the next day I had singed the contract for them to do the work they are good at.

It's hard to let go. It's a lesson I'm learning and what it's made me realize is that I'm more of a control freak than I thought I was. Letting go is hard: of our children, of our past, of our failures, on and on we can list them. But I have a plan to move forward and I've added a pro to my team. I can't do it all my self - and neither can you. When you're stuck and frustrated it's time to find someone who can help.