You Cannot Serve Without SACRIFICE
Forrest Dohrmann
Tactical Construction Consultant - Eagle Eye Productions - Creating Limitless Boundaries | Christian - Father - Consultant - Story Teller - Business Owner - Innovator
The phrase “here to SERVE” has gained popularity, often becoming a buzzword rather than a genuine principle. While serving others is fundamental to our humanity and moral compass, the term “service” can sometimes be misunderstood, much like the concept of “integrity.” True service goes beyond the simple definition of “helping or doing work for someone.” It involves providing services that are inherently intangible, perishable, and unique, highlighting the significance of the service delivery process and the human element involved. It embodies a deeper level of commitment—an altruistic action fueled by a genuine compassion for another person’s goals and needs. In this article, we will explore what it truly means to serve others, how to authentically present this value in business, and how to discern whether someone is genuinely committed to serving or merely trying to sell you something.
Core Principle to Honest Service.
At the heart of honest service lies a core principle: selflessness. True service is not about gaining recognition or personal benefit; it’s about prioritizing the needs and well-being of others above your own. Business functions are critical in serving others, as they encompass various activities essential to the operation of a business, ensuring that customers' needs are met and supported effectively. This principle requires a commitment to empathy and understanding, where actions are driven by a genuine desire to help rather than any ulterior motive.
Selflessness in service means fully engaging with the other person’s needs and striving to make a meaningful impact. It’s about listening attentively, offering support without expecting anything in return, and being willing to go above and beyond to ensure that the other person’s needs are met. This approach fosters trust and respect, and it creates a foundation of integrity and authenticity in any service interaction.
Honest service also demands consistency. It’s not enough to offer support occasionally or when it’s convenient. True service is demonstrated through consistent, reliable actions that align with the core values of selflessness and empathy. This consistency helps build lasting relationships and reinforces the genuine nature of your commitment.
By embracing selflessness and consistency, we can move beyond superficial gestures of service and cultivate a deeper, more meaningful impact in our interactions with others.
I’ve encountered many individuals with truly remarkable hearts who possess an innate drive and desire to serve others. Whether in times of need or moments of success, their service is characterized by a genuine willingness to give without expecting anything in return. For them, serving others isn’t just a moral obligation; it’s a source of genuine joy and fulfillment.
While not everyone is born with this natural inclination toward service, we can all cultivate the right mindset. If you find yourself expecting something in return, it may be a sign that your approach to service needs adjustment. True service is fundamentally about selfless actions dedicated entirely to the well-being of others, without any personal gain or reward. Embracing this mindset helps ensure that our service remains authentic and impactful.
I was fortunate to grow up in a family with a profound passion for helping others. From a young age, I witnessed countless instances where my parents extended their kindness, often in ways that seemed small but were deeply impactful. These acts of service were done with such natural grace that they often went unnoticed by others—but not by me.
One memory stands out vividly. We lived in a small town in Florida, where encounters with homeless individuals were rare. However, during trips to nearby cities, we would occasionally see them. Their signs typically read “Anything helps” or “Need money,” but when we offered food or water, they frequently declined, revealing that their need was not for sustenance but for money.
I vividly remember an occasion when I was about 12. We had gone to lunch at Chili’s with my mom. As we turned the corner to the restaurant, I noticed a homeless man with a sign that simply said “Hungry, thanks.” My mom took note of him and, after we finished our meal and settled the bill, she pulled the waitress aside. She instructed her to treat the man as a paying customer and not to judge him based on his appearance. “I’m going to cover his meal,” she said, “and I want you to serve him with the same respect you’d offer any other guest. Anything he orders is on me.”
Afterward, we drove back to the man, and my mom approached him. “Are you hungry?” she asked. When he replied that he was, she told him, “Go into Chili’s, sit down in the cool air, and order whatever you like. It’s all covered. They’re expecting you.” The look of shock and relief on his face was unforgettable. This was during the 2008-09 market crash, a time when many were struggling, and it was clear that this man needed food more than money in the moment.
This experience left a lasting impression on me. It taught me to be attentive to the real needs of others and to offer help with genuine compassion. The joy I feel from serving someone in need, without expecting anything in return, has stayed with me ever since. It’s a reminder of the profound impact of authentic service and the deep satisfaction it brings.
“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”— Winston Churchill
Selfishly Selfless
Let’s take a moment to break the mold and explore an often-overlooked aspect of selfless service—a concept that may not be immediately apparent but is central to my philosophy and posts: the necessity of embracing certain selfish desires to become truly selfless for the right reasons. This may sound paradoxical, but it is a crucial element in serving others effectively.
To give your best and be genuinely impactful in your service, you must first ensure that you are at your optimal state—physically, mentally, and spiritually. This means you need to prioritize self-care and personal growth as foundational elements of your ability to contribute meaningfully. Let’s break this down:
Physical Well-being: Achieving your best self involves investing in your physical health. This means committing to regular exercise, maintaining a balanced diet, and ensuring that you are in good physical shape. Taking care of your body is not merely a personal choice; it’s a necessary step to be capable of meeting the demands of serving others effectively. A healthy body supports a vibrant mind and a resilient spirit, both of which are essential for sustained service. This also shows others that you do not just help from a place of hypocrisy but rather reality.
Mental and Emotional Growth: Beyond physical health, you must also focus on your mental and emotional well-being. This includes spending time on personal development activities such as reading, learning new skills, and engaging in self-reflection. By continuously educating yourself and expanding your knowledge, you enhance your ability to offer valuable insights and support to others. A well-nurtured mind is better equipped to handle the challenges and responsibilities that come with serving others.
Spiritual Fulfillment: Spiritual growth is another critical aspect. This involves cultivating a deeper understanding of your faith, seeking guidance through prayer or meditation, and aligning your actions with your spiritual beliefs. When you are spiritually grounded, you are more capable of offering compassion, empathy, and support to those in need. Your spiritual strength provides a solid foundation for your service, enabling you to give with a pure and open heart.
Financial Stability: Financial resources play a significant role in your ability to serve. It’s important to strive for financial stability and to earn money with the intention of using it for the benefit of others. This isn’t about accumulating wealth for its own sake but about having the means to support charitable causes, invest in community projects, or assist individuals who require help. Financial health empowers you to make a tangible difference and fulfill your service goals.
From an external perspective, this focus on personal development might be seen as self-centered or selfish. People may judge you or distance themselves from you because they perceive your commitment to self-improvement as a form of narcissism. However, it is crucial to recognize that this so-called selfishness is, in reality, a strategic investment in your capacity to serve. By ensuring that you are at your best, you are positioning yourself to offer more substantial and meaningful contributions to others.
Embrace the reality that your personal growth is intrinsically linked to your ability to make a positive impact. Each person is born with unique gifts and talents. By nurturing these gifts and aligning them with a clear personal mission, you create a powerful force for good. The work you do on yourself is not just for personal gain—it is the foundation upon which your service to others is built.
So, don’t shy away from prioritizing your well-being and growth. Understand that these efforts are integral to your capacity to help and serve others effectively. The journey of self-improvement is not just about enhancing your own life but about preparing yourself to offer your best to the world. By investing in yourself, you are ultimately investing in your ability to make a meaningful difference in the lives of those around you. You are focused on your best self, which will give you super powers in the areas you are serving.
How to Develop Your Superpower
Every single person has a superpower within them. The potential for greatness resides in everyone, though we often don’t hear that enough. You have the ability to cultivate excellence in the skills that God has blessed you with. However, many people struggle to identify these skills or to develop them into a true superpower. This superpower is the passion that drives your life’s mission. Discovering that mission may take years and will likely evolve as you grow and experience life.
But how do we uncover what our true passion and mission are?
Developing Your Vision
The first step is to look inward and ask yourself some fundamental questions: What do I enjoy more than anything? If I could live without the constraints of money, what would I do for "work"? What am I passionate about, and what do I care deeply about? For some, this might be a hobby, for others, it could be an action or a service they offer to others. Some people are fortunate enough to turn this passion into a career. Regardless of what it is, identifying this passion is the starting point.
Next, consider the legacy you want to leave behind. Be specific. Do you want to be known for helping others, or would you prefer to be an anonymous servant? Either path is valid, but it’s important to develop a clear idea of how you want to be remembered by your family and friends when you’re gone. What stories will they tell about you? What will be the character of your future self? Imagine the ideal person you want to become and make that vision your guiding light.
Creating Your Mission
Once you’ve identified your passion and vision, it’s time to explore how that passion can genuinely help others. How can you offer your unique abilities to the world in a way that brings real value? Consider the impact your superpower can have on the personal growth, success, and well-being of others. Your mission should be more than just a nice thought—it should have the power to change lives. Ask yourself: How can I use my superpower to make a meaningful difference?
Think about all the things you need to do personally to reach your vision of your future self. This includes the learning, growth, and experiences you need to pursue. Map out the pathway to your end goal, and consider how you will navigate your daily actions to move closer to that vision.
Discovering Your Values
With your vision and mission in place, it’s time to build a process that allows you to replicate your success on a larger scale. Work on perfecting your craft, developing your talents, and refining your approach through experimentation and feedback. Study the outcomes—both successes and failures—and use them to adjust, modify, and enhance your methods. This continuous process of innovation is essential to reaching and maintaining excellence. The tools and strategies you develop along the way will serve as your roadmap to achieving your long-term goals.
What you’ve just developed is a set of Vision, Mission, and Values that will guide your life. Just as every successful organization or business has a clear mission and values, so too must every individual. Some are fortunate to have grown up with strong leaders in their families who helped mold them, often without them even realizing it. Others, like myself, may have had to develop this framework on their own, gaining awareness and understanding as they grew older.
"If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.” - Alexander Hamilton
Marketing You're Passion
You have it, Now what?
So, you've discovered your superpower—your true passion in life. The next challenge is transforming this passion into a sustainable and fulfilling career. Contrary to popular belief, the most effective way to make a lasting difference in the world is by creating a livelihood around what you love. Earning an income from your passion not only supports your personal needs but also amplifies your ability to serve and impact others positively.
Financial stability is essential; it allows you to provide for yourself and your loved ones, ensuring that your basic needs—like food, shelter, and security—are met. When these necessities are taken care of, you can focus your energy and resources on contributing meaningfully to the lives of others without facing personal hardship. Otherwise, you risk finding yourself in a position where you require assistance, hindering your ability to fulfill your mission.
Marketing your passion effectively is the bridge between personal fulfillment and impactful service. It involves sharing your unique skills and services with the world in a way that resonates and attracts those who can benefit from them. By strategically promoting what you offer, you create opportunities to connect with a wider audience, generate income, and ultimately, make a more significant difference.
Embracing marketing doesn't mean compromising your values or authenticity; instead, it’s about communicating the value of your passion clearly and compellingly. It's about telling your story, showcasing your expertise, and demonstrating how your offerings can solve problems or enhance the lives of others. Through thoughtful and genuine marketing efforts, you position yourself not just as someone pursuing personal interests, but as a valuable contributor to your community and beyond.
Remember, monetizing your passion is not about selfish gain—it's a practical and powerful way to sustain and scale your impact. By turning your passion into a profession, you ensure that you can continue doing what you love while serving others effectively and consistently.
Seek advice.
Now that you’ve identified what you’re good at and passionate about, the next step is to identify a real need in the world and develop a solution that not only addresses that need but also genuinely serves those who need it. Innovation is key to bringing about positive change, and you must find a way to offer something unique and impactful.
As you embark on this journey, seek out as many opinions as possible. Hearing different perspectives can provide valuable insights, but be discerning in what you accept. Not all advice is worth following—especially from those who have never ventured into similar territory. You’ll likely encounter criticism, skepticism, and doubts about your idea. People may say it will never work, or question why you think you can succeed.
Take this as a positive sign. The resistance you face is often an indicator that you’re challenging the status quo and pushing boundaries. Embrace it—because it means you’re on the right track to revolutionizing your field. Use the constructive feedback to refine your approach, and let the naysayers fuel your determination.
Who will it effect?
At the heart of your service or product lies the impact it will have on those who invest in it—whether it’s a company or an individual. However, its influence should extend far beyond just the direct beneficiary. It should positively affect their employees, their families, their friends, and even the people who hire or interact with them. The ripple effect of your work should reach multiple layers of society, creating a broader and more meaningful impact. When you consider who will be affected, think about the entire ecosystem surrounding your service or product. Your goal is to create something that not only serves but also uplifts everyone it touches.
What are the long term effects?
When developing your service or product, it’s essential to consider its long-term impact. The true measure of success isn’t just in immediate results, but in the lasting effects your work will have on those it touches. Think about how your service will continue to benefit your clients, their employees, and their communities over time.
Will it foster growth, create opportunities, or improve quality of life? Will it inspire others to serve and contribute to positive change? The long-term effects should reflect the sustainability and enduring value of what you offer. Your goal should be to leave a legacy that continues to make a difference long after the initial transaction, ensuring that your work remains relevant and impactful for years to come.
Will this cause or inspire change?
As you develop your service or product, ask yourself: will this spark change? True success lies not just in meeting immediate needs, but in inspiring transformation—both in individuals and in the broader community. Consider how what you offer can challenge existing norms, encourage new ways of thinking, or promote positive behaviors.
Will it empower people to take action, improve their lives, or even inspire them to serve others? The most impactful work often starts a ripple effect, leading to meaningful change that extends far beyond the initial interaction. Your goal should be to create something that not only addresses a need but also motivates and empowers others to be part of a larger movement toward betterment.
How much is it worth?
Once you’ve developed your product or service, the next step is determining its value in the marketplace. Start by researching what people are willing to pay for similar offerings. This could involve conducting market research, analyzing competitors, using Google to gather insights, and even consulting friends or colleagues in the same industry. These steps are crucial for understanding the market, but ultimately, the price should make sense to you.
Ask yourself: What value are you bringing to the table? How does your product or service not only solve your customers' problems but also save them time and money? If it effectively addresses all three—solving problems, saving time, and reducing costs—then you're on the right track. When these factors align, you know you’ve found the sweet spot, and that’s when things start to get interesting.
Put it all together
Once you’ve gathered all these pieces—the passion, the vision, the market value, and the understanding of your potential impact—it’s time to showcase your work. This is where the real journey begins. Many people reach this stage and falter, not because they lack ability or understanding, but because they hesitate to take action. They get stuck in the planning phase, paralyzed by the fear of starting.
To truly succeed, you must push through this barrier. Break free from the mental blocks and begin with small steps. As you build momentum, those small steps will grow into larger strides, leaps, and eventually, you’ll find yourself soaring. Remember, without taking that first step, you’ll never fulfill the purpose you were meant to serve. It’s time to get after it—start now and watch your passion transform into meaningful impact. Get after it.
How to tell is someone is faking it:
It will cost them dearly.
The journey to mastering true service, developing an elite version of yourself, and building a foundational character while finding a profitable way to do it is not for the faint of heart. Many first-time business owners are drawn to the idea of success without fully grasping the immense effort required. What we’ve discussed may sound inspiring, but the reality is that it demands an extraordinary level of commitment and hard work.
You will face an unbalanced lifestyle, sacrificing your leisure, sleep, and time with loved ones. You may become deeply immersed in your mission, driven by a relentless pursuit to make a difference. This path requires true sacrifice, but for those who are committed, it’s worth every bit of effort. Why? Because you’ve built a solid foundation, defined who you want to become, and discovered your true purpose on this earth. When you finally see the positive impact of your work on others, it validates every grueling moment and makes all the sacrifices worthwhile.
True service requires a tremendous amount of work—work that goes far beyond just saying the right things. It’s easy for someone to talk about serving others, but it’s much harder to walk that path day in and day out. The effort, sacrifice, and dedication involved are what separate the genuine from the imposters.
One of the clearest signs that someone is faking service is the lack of follow-through. They may speak passionately about serving others, but when it comes time to roll up their sleeves and take action, they fall short. They might talk about big plans, post about their intentions, or even seek recognition for their “efforts,” but you’ll notice that they rarely deliver tangible results. That’s because true service requires consistency, hard work, and often going unnoticed—qualities that those faking it don’t possess.
Genuine service is driven by purpose and passion. It’s not about the spotlight or applause; it’s about the impact made on others. People who are truly committed will work tirelessly, even when no one is watching, while those faking it will fade away the moment the spotlight isn’t on them.
In the end, actions always speak louder than words. True servants will have a body of work that shows their commitment, while those faking it will have little more than empty promises. You’ll be able to spot the difference not in what they say, but in what they do—or don’t do.
Call to action:
Develop true service attitude in your life.
It’s time to stop talking about service and start living it. True service isn’t something you do for recognition, it’s a way of life that demands action, sacrifice, and a genuine commitment to helping others. Take a step back and reflect—are you truly serving, or just giving lip service?
Start developing a service attitude by focusing on how you can make a real impact. Look for opportunities to serve in small, meaningful ways. Take action, even when no one is watching, and build the habit of giving without expecting anything in return. Commit to being consistent in your efforts, even when it’s hard, and let your actions speak for your dedication.
True service comes from a deep desire to uplift others. Cultivate that in your daily life, and the rewards will follow—not in the form of applause, but in the satisfaction of knowing you’ve made a difference.
In the end, you must sacrifice your time, your relationships, your personal happiness, and many other things to truly serve. It is however, worth every second. After all, why else are we here on earth?
Go serve.
Corporate Health & Safety Director, Safety Consultant (part time) & Contributing Writer
6 个月If one wants to serve, they have to obey. The sacrifice was once for all, proving with finality; obedience is better than sacrifice because Grace abounds. You cannot serve without obedience, you cannot be obedient without grace, grace is received by faith believing. That is how one serves others. Modern culture ruins things with buzz words, that I would agree with.