You Can Only Change Reality with Reality

You Can Only Change Reality with Reality

In other words, trying to solve a problem in your brain will never work. Talking to your friends over and over again about your problems rarely works.

But we still do it.

We mull over big and small decisions, looking at the pros and cons, waiting until it feels just right or until we somehow “know” what the best thing to do is.

Nuerodiveregents may even suffer from analysis paralysis more than the average bear—at least that has been my experience over the years.

A case study

Years ago, I had a client with ADHD that had big dreams of creating her next career—she wanted to hit the ground running but 3 months after leaving the best job of her life, she hadn’t moved an inch.

It took a little time, but she was eventually able to identify three broad possibilities of what her next chapter would look like—and then a little more work to define one or two specific options within those areas. After a few weeks, we had five concrete things she could try—and the truth was, we had no idea which one of the five we should choose, or even if any of the options would end up working.

So we tried them all.

We actually put a plan in place to take one simple action a week to move each of the items forward… trusting that her next chapter would reveal itself. It did. The very act of announcing to herself and her network what she was doing, invited the community to help her move things forward and more and more possibilities revealed themselves.

I’m happy to report that 5 years later, she is doing a career she loves and it looks totally different than anything we made up during those six months working together—and that’s the way it usually goes. The actions she took led to realizations, more actions, and more realizations—which eventually created her current career. She would still be on the sidelines today wondering about that “perfect” thing if we hadn’t created a plan and implemented it.

Ask me about my journey to creating a business that is also my dream job. My story is pretty much the same as most, it’s consistent action—not a perfect idea—that leads to success.

What is the one action you can take to move your dream forward? What’s stopping you?

Go.

Tell me how it goes.

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Past Articles: Neurodiverse Leadership Resource Library

Want more resources on neurodivergent leadership? We are finding and creating resources for you. Watch this section expand every week.

Feb 21: Shelf Help is Usually Just That

Feb 7: New From Petra Russell: Unlocking ADHD Innovation: Coaching Strategies for Neurodivergent Leaders

Jan 31: If You Don’t Know by Now, Knowledge is Not the Key

Jan 17: More Resources on Your Neurodivergent Journey

Jan 10: Let’s Talk About Empathy

Dec 20: Leaders Talk to Themselves

Dec 13: They’re Called Coping Mechanisms for a Reason

Dec 6: Leadership is an Inside Job

Nov 22: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Nov 15: People are More Difficult Than Algorithms

Nov 8: Leaders Don’t Want to Be Victims

Nov 1: "He Only Cares About Himself"

Oct 18: Neurodivergent Leaders and the Power of One on One Conversation

Oct 4: How to Be Disciplined When You Just Aren’t

Sept 26: My Boss Doesn’t Listen, Now What?

Sept 20: You Can’t Manage Time—Even if You Have Neurodivergent Superpowers

Sept 13: Breaking Through the "Nerd" Ceiling

Sept 6: You Are Not Alone

Aug 30: More than Ever, Neurodivergent Leaders Need a Coach

Aug 22: The Enneagram and My Leadership

Aug 9: Do You Really Want to Manage Up? Start here!

Aug 1: The Difference Between Good Leaders and Great Leaders is How Much They Care (About People)

July 25: Better Living Through Chemistry—Until There is a Shortage

July 19: Coming Alive is What We Are Meant to Do

July 12: What Is My Purpose? What Happens When High Performers Feel Defeated?

June 28: The Art of Really Listening…Doing a Listening Fast

June 20: "It's Everything"

June 13: Listening to Completion

June 6: Embodying Resilience and Grit

May 23: Taylor Swift Can Do It With a Broken Heart—So Can You!

May 16: Neurodivergent Executives (Like The Yeti but Real)

May 10: Focused and Distracted at the Same Time

May 3: All Brains Belong

April 25: No One Told Me I Couldn’t Do That!!! Expectations vs Agreements & Neurodivergent Leaders

April 19: I Can’t Deal with THIS Person

April 12 : Being Smarter is NOT the Answer

April 5: All Executive Coaching Eventually Becomes "Life Coaching"

Mar 28: The Best Leadership is Service

Mar 22: Neurodiversity Week

Mar 15: Without Empathy We're Without Leadership

Mar 8: You Aren't Who You Think (Or Feel) You Are

Mar 1: Thriving Uniquely vs Suffering in Silence: The Benefits of Confidential Self-Identification for Neurodivergent Leaders

Feb 23: Who Needs Productivity Anyway? Did You See That Squirrel?

Feb 12: Emerging from Shame: Illuminating the Path to Neurodivergent Leadership Brilliance

Feb 1: Always Do Your Best Doesn’t Mean Always Do THE Best

Jan 25: There is Nothing Wrong but Something Is Missing

Jan: 19 What’s a Vision Anyway? Why Can’t They Just Do Their Jobs?

Jan 12: A Day in the Life of a Neurodivergent Leader: Navigating Autistic Demand Avoidance at Work

Jan 5: Redefining Autism: The Power of Self-Identification

Dec 21: Why Am I So Anxious

Dec 14: Cultivating Brilliance in Neurodivergent Leaders

Dec 7: Conversations Matter

Dec 1: The Trouble With Geniuses

Nov 17: Science Lesson

Nov 10: Living from Logic in an Emotional World

Nov 3: Communicating with Precision and Simplicity

Oct 27: Creativity and Innovation

Oct 20: How Neurodiversity is Making a Positive and Innovative Impact

Oct 12: It’s Lonely at the Top—Especially for Neurodivergent Leaders

Oct 6: Simply Different?

Sept 29: ADHD: The Kryptonite of It and Its Superpowers

Sept 21: Nerds (and Geeks) Are Leaders Too!

Sept 14 : Blind Spots: You Can't See Yours

Sept 7: People are More Difficult Than Algorithms

Aug 31: ADHD Kids Become ADHD Adults—but Sometimes the Tools Stop Working

Aug 25: Are you Dumb Enough to Manage Up?

Aug 18: Understanding the Avoidant Employee

Aug 10: Your Leadership is Not Served by You Thinking You are Less Than

Aug 4: Leaders Don't Want to Be Victims

July 20: Are You Overcompensating?

July 13: Why We Need the Outdoors

July 6: It's Not a Bug, It's a Feature

June 29: EMOTIONAL BIDS: What Do We Do When Someone Reaches Out to Us Emotionally?

June 15: The Boxes We Put Ourselves In

June 8: Please Just Tell Me the Answer!

May 25: Dyslexia and Leadership

May 18: Autism and Leadership: Advantages and Challenges

May 11: ADHD and Leadership

May 4: Hi Elon, I'd Like to Be Your Executive Coach

Apr 27: Surprise! Your Motivators are NOT Their Motivators

Apr 14: Managing Up Success Story

Apr 6: The Power of Routine

Mar 30: The Nerd Ceiling and Digital Body Language

Mar 22: Neurodiversity Makes For Better Leaders (Sometimes)

Mar 16: He Only Cares About Himself

Mar 9: Neurodiverse Leaders and the Power of One on One Conversation

Mar 2: What if My Neurodiverse Boss Sucks with People?

Feb 23: Why Am I So Anxious?

Feb 16: The Trouble With Neurodiverse Leadership (Forbes Article)

Feb 9: Your Straight Talk is NOT Authentic Leadership

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