You can always learn how to do it later
Kishore Shintre
#newdaynewchapter is a Blog narrative started on March 1, 2021 co-founded by Kishore Shintre & Sonia Bedi, to write a new chapter everyday for making "Life" and not just making a "living"
Life keeps giving you opportunities many times and sometimes it is not possible for us to take those opportunities and convert them into successes, however we can always park those aside and keep them in our radar so that the next time when we are ready to pick up the gauntlet we can start running ourselves full steam. There are so many thing we want to do in such a short life but to keep learning from our present assignment and how to best utilise our efforts and time is the biggest opportunity we have at hand.
That “Worries” are not worth even a moment of the time we spent on them! If I had known this 20 years ago, I would have spent a happier life. We have been taught to worry about things, right from our younger days! If you are not worrying you are not considered a “responsible” person. Once you realise that “whatever happens” do not need your control over them (except the urge to urinate or defecate, which you need to control until you get to the space reserved for it) you are the happiest person in the world!
Now I don’t even worry about the comment from people who know me “What a worry less person! Most irresponsible!” Remember that whatever happens do what you like because it is said that "do what you love or love what you do". Because success doesn't mean to be rich but being happy is new rich. Social status doesn't makes you happy, peace of mind does. You don't have to continue a toxic relationship just because your society doesn't approve pf divorce. Being in a toxic marriage or toxic job can be bad for your mental health. It's ok to leave toxic job/ marriage, your mental health is more important than your social status.
It is true that your parents are not the angels sent from heaven, they too are human beings, accept them with gratitude for bringing you to this world and keep away from their negative traits. Don't keep high expectations just because they are your parents, they are also human beings. Be kind to them and serve them always to the best of your ability. Sex is not so important in life. If it becomes one of the most horrible physical experience when you are stuck in a toxic relationship. Give importance to the mind and soul rather than fall for looks or external appearance.
If you decided to be single and happy even in your 40s it is always better than ruining your mental health in a bad relationship. Love is about giving with receiving. It's a two way business, if you're giving a lot in a relationship think twice and have a balanced relationship with equal give and take than a one sided toxic relationship. Stop pleasing people, stop finding love in others. Self love is very important, practice it.Forgiveness is very important in life and yes it doesn't mean you are accepting that person's faults it means you are clearing that clutter in your mind. Ego is useless but self esteem is important, so act wisely.
Not all women are innocent. Stop judging people by their gender or economical status. Multitasking is not healthy and we should complete one task at one time rather than juggling between many things at once and ruining everything. Of course we always used to think that we are right ,what we said that matters to us ,what others are saying that doesn’t matter to us Mostly these thoughts are from usually sick people have in their mind.
Few months ago something happened in my life, which I would not have ever imagined on those days whoever came to me I considered all of them as my enemies, like they are not with me or they can’t feel what I feel. Basically I was not able too understand what actually my friends were telling too me at that time because I used to be just so overconfident that I felt I was right all the times and you all are fools, because you can’t just understand my problems.
In short my behaviour tends to be exponentially down and there were no emotions left or no understanding left for my well wishers in those days..however actually I learned that when we just try to understand people what they want us to understood although if you are in anger or u are not in that mood just take deep breath and close your eyes, and then talk with them freely. No one cares about you, at one point of life not even your brother/sister, except your parents. Your other relatives and friends care only because it is in their interest not because they really love you as your parents do.
Even your closer ones will hurt you the most in those days. Always remember that few people exist who give preference to the character if people and fall for looks for money. No one is happy now a days of Covid-19 as every one is under pressure. The charm and smile you see on the faces of many people are mostly fake. Their hearts are filled with fear, stress, anxiety, jealousy and confusion. Many people use Facebook/Twitter or Whatsapp only to vent out their frustration and hatred, and nothing more. Social Media feeds our arrogance and sometimes insecurity.'
Much later in life we keep learning that we could have learnt this much earlier in life would have been much better we must learn to say no politely and always trust your instinct. We only regret the chances we didn’t take proper decisions at the right time. Solitude is important to figure out many things as we can talk to ourselves and resolve our own issues.Health is the greatest asset in the world. It is life’s greatest blessing. Never ever take your good health for granted, you need to take care of it. Money is very important and sometimes in worst situation it can bring the real happiness, but don’t be slave for it. I have seen poor people dying due to debt. Hope, love and Faith matters most. Need to value untold sacrifices by your parents, family and friends. Cheers!
Independent Law Practice Professional
3 年The message is instead of rejection, commence with first step, you will learn later.
Attitude + willingness to learn + hard work
Author | Secretary to the Leader of Opposition, Rajya Sabha | Consultant on Parliamentary Practices and Legislative Procedures | Former Joint Secretary (Legislation), Lok Sabha Secretariat
3 年Very true
Teaching Assistant at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham
3 年Worries, fears and desires are good only if they can lead us to success, happiness or satisfaction. If they prevent us from achieving success happiness or satisfaction they are definitely worth less.
Rudy Roadrunner
3 年Thanks for posting