You are not alone.

You are not alone.

I used to compare myself a lot to my peers.

They always seemed to be doing better than me.?

They were confident, involved in so many projects and never appeared to be struggling.?

This would really contribute to my anxiety and often made me feel like a fraud.?

One of my biggest Reality Check moments was when I had coffee with an ex-Uber teammate a couple of years ago.?

I opened up to her about my struggles at Uber and admitted to feeling insecure because of how well she was doing.?

She looked at me in complete disbelief.

For the entire 2 years that we'd worked together, she’d also felt insecure because of how well I was doing.?

We essentially spent 2 years of our lives being insecure about someone who was also insecure about us.?

This seems so ridiculous but it’s the reality for so many of us.

How much energy have you wasted comparing yourself to your peers? And without knowing how they were really doing??

That’s why it’s so important to open up about insecurities and mental health because it’s the best way to remind ourselves that we’re not alone.?

If you feel like a fraud, you are not alone.?

If you feel like everyone else is doing better than you, you are not alone.?

Whatever hardship you are dealing with:

You are not alone.

Much love,

Alex



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Don’t compete with others. Compete with yourself and improve yourself and the rest will follow. (This is what I tell my kids).

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I help Successful but Unfulfilled Millennials stop overthinking, break free from self-doubt and create a life that truly feels fulfilling ?? Pizza Lover & Peanut Butter Addict ????

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Mike Howarth

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Awesome newsletter champ!

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Ian O'Donoghue

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Comparing ourselves to people is a waste of time. I dealt with this when younger. If you feel superior to some, logic dictates you'll have an inferiority complex and feel inferior to others, and vica verca. You can't have one without the other In addition, if we "flex" we should also do so to empower, not to overshadow. And if we see strength in others, we should use it as motivation and inspiration, and not as a basis for insecure inner dialouge. Thanks for the post and the perspective. Wish you a nice weekend... your weekend won't be as fun as mine (not comparing or anything, ha)

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