Write a letter...and let it go
Candice Ludwig
Organizational Psychologist | Certified Health Coach | Here to find smart, fun friends & companies that care about employee health and well-being
Do you have a person or thing that triggers you??
Maybe they make you super annoyed, or mad, or sad, or frustrated…
Ever notice how the same thoughts run in your mind on auto-pilot in these moments??
You focus on, and find, all the things you should/would/could say to this person or about a thing…?
…over, and over, and over
In those moments, does doing that ever make you feel better or help resolve the issue??
If you’re like most people, it actually makes the issue bigger and you feel smaller
The more you let it ruminate, the more you make up ‘stories’ to fill in the gaps of what you imagine the other person to be thinking or feeling
And again, you fall down the endless spiral of feeling worse and worse?
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Most times you’re not ready to talk or confront the issue or person - and that’s okay?
The good news is, there’s a trick to get this out of your brain while you decide how you want to handle it at the same time
What is it? Write a letter
Yep, we’re going old school
Be honest. Be direct. The more the better, this is your chance to get it out
The magic here is that when you get it out of your head and onto paper you see the negative thoughts and conversations objectively…
…and you can detach from them
You have enough day-to-day things to think about, don’t let the negative stuff or people take up any more real estate in your mind than they already have
Write a letter to let it out. Burn it. And let it go
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2 年Such sage advice- thanks for sharing.