To work with Whom?

When you are making a career decision for a long-term thing, think multiple times about the people whom you're going to work with. The reason is, whether you like it or not, you will spend 30% of your day lifetime with them. And the rest of the day, they could influence your happiness as well, indirectly.

To not work with

FAME.

There are people who run after fame. If your leader is that person or if you are motivated/inspired by his path, you are in dismay. Their concern, goals, strategies, everything will revolve around the fame for them. When they take decisions, it’s going to be based on it. So if you are working with individuals in this mindset, it might not be the best option for you in the long term.

They can abandon you anytime when they don’t fit you fall into their formula of fame. You are not going to work every day enjoying the work because you don’t feel inspired by a purpose. It’s just a fantasy portrayal(jumla) by them.

PR Splashing is a thing they love about it. But there won’t be any substance if you go deeper about their product, team, etc. The team will look like a good concert to you. In concert, it’s simply a high beat of sounds and artificial lights. And the sounds and visuals just stop when you finish that concert. You will forget every thing until you replay the recording.

To work with

But natural doesn't stop, so find the natural. There are people who are naturally good. They don't stop because it's their nature.

MORALS.

Work with people who have great morals, that will be the best time in your life. Because those people wouldn’t have cheated you, won’t try to put you down for selfish reasons, have high empathy about you and your life. The empathy is a high quality. It’s very difficult to understand people's feeling, I’m still learning. When we run fast, difficult to pause and think about it. So we need to balance it.

If you can identify who is being cunning, indirectly trying to put you down, stay away. Don’t waste time winning over the arguments or spending more time. It provides you time to spend time on good stuff. Secondly, it also provides a space for them to correct their behaviours.

FUN VS FORMALITY.

In professional life, people keep repeating that you need to be formal in companies. Formal is a culture they define from what you wear > how you speak with someone > how you write > how you discuss things.

There are so many rules they define by that. It may be right or wrong. Depends on how you think about it. But personally, I never love to work in an organisation that looks like a military discipline. There are a 3 job I enjoyed in my career which I still have the best memories of my life. It's not military. It's a fun ride and still reaching the destination. I am still in contact with the most of the team members I have worked with. Those 3 jobs are fun time like college, balanced between professional rules and fun.

But there are other people who are just pure words for the sake of working with. Formality. Pure words mean they use words hi, how are you, or thanks, etc. They do it for the sake of using it, but no real intention behind it. Imagine you spent a lot of time on them building that relationship, but after a few years you find if it’s not worth the effort.

On strange events, it’s fine. But careful about what you sacrifice/prioritise things for whom. Example of prioritising short terms and missing the long term, You could have skipped your family dinner to make your college happy to join a football team out. Or you could have prioritised you a casual office event to skip a meet with an old colleague coming from overseas on a short holiday try- ing to meet you.

STANDING UP. SPEAKING UP. STRAIGHT FORWARD and TRANSPARENT.

Whether you like the point/topic/issue he/she is bringing up, respect and work with those people who speak up their mind and strong about their opinions. These guys are best to work with you in life when you look back the past. They don’t mince words. They don’t hide their feelings for sake of saving their job. They don’t go silent when there is an issue for a colleague. They speak up. When they speak up, it's easy to work with them. Imagine some people who mince words to hide their real intention.

From my observation so far, strong opinionated people, stick to their beliefs. Indeed we all learn lesson and our wisdom may improve but those people will not twist things as per situations to safaguard them.

Even if you are not working with them now, you will still like to message them because you know the person is not going to mince but straightforward feedback.

There is one, of my first college in Malaysia, we worked together on 2013, it’s al- ready 11 years now, but I still like to meet him when I am in Malaysia. To note, we worked only 4 months together, but we are good friends still. I owe him what he did for me. He never cheated me where his job was at stake. He never did anything selfish. He could have been arrogant when am there but respected me and treated me with kind.

There is also someone who straightforward and tell me, I'm doing this for this objective. I'm getting this benefit and you are receiving this benefit. A transparent deal based. So you know you are accepting something knowing the full picture and nothing behind it.

Also make fast decisions when you tried few times but still someone is deceiving you. And move on. Life has abundance.

INSTAGRAM Life.

No big words, don’t be deceived on this as well by looking at this and make career decisions.

Work on something with someone that you will love yourself. When you reach 40+, you should feel that you spent time with great people and great experiences.

The Almighty has blessed many of us, Praise to him. Glory is to him. I'm praying for you all!

Sometimes I wonder myself why I’m writing all this. It doesn’t give any money or anything to make my living. But it is somehow revealing to me, what will I tell my close friend who is having challenges in his career or a younger brother/sis who is starting his/her career. I wish them not waste their life in fantasy and guide them on a happy and purposeful path. And 100%, I don’t want them to fall under corporate slavery.