Work place Romance and it's Ramifications.

I married my wife in my work place and it did not work for me, though we were married for 15 years and the marriage ended after 7 years of leaving that job.For others it may have worked because then we had a lot of people married and it was fine.I was transferred from a Region to the Head office where she worked as PA to the CEO.It was a special request from somebody for me to be brought to head office and put in a high office as an assistant manager so i mess up, but i handled that role beautifully.It was hell all because of her and those who were nice with me and found out she was my wife suddenly became cold towards me.Look at a point i was deliberately reported to Corporate HR when i was not aware i did anything, till one day they were exposed badly.If your wife is very beautiful and you are at the same workplace , trouble !!!.

Last Thursday my friend who is a big man in an institution called me that his secretary wanted to resign and i should talk to her to rescind her decision.I always say this that there is no woman who likes to be used and dumped , unless there is an agreement that this would be just a hit and run, which is rare.Hit and runs mostly become permanent.No woman likes to be slept with , let off and then you pick up her colleague friend and treat her better.I said everything but the lady decided to stick to her guns, she wont give any reason.This is it, the boss once had something to do with this secretary then he employed her and still something went on till he decided to stop, but with these girls, you chop one ,you must chop two, and three , then four and it goes on.Where my paddy got it wrong, he decided to date another lady who lives near the work place and this girl comes to him, brings him food ,he goes out with her and even traveled to USA with this girl, bought her a car and this girl flaunts it.This secretary misbehaved and was suspended for three days, after her return she decided to quit.I noticed she was quitting out of pain, she felt she is the last person to be suspended after all the ''bad treatment from the boss'' , what she also forgot that lady the boss is seeing is not an employee.I was sad because she has no alternative job but leaving out of pain, truth be told that girl cannot survive in any institution,she was just being considered and kept in employment, attitude and skill is zilch.

Never take a woman in your office and leave her for a colleague woman and flaunt it in front of her, workplace romance is a big no , no!!!.It brings unnecessary strife,for me i am single now but i would never date a young girl because i do not want to have more kids, if anything just one kid and a girl because i only have boys.How many girls want just one kid?. So though my taste is a younger lady around 34 -42 years, i would prefer a more matured woman in spite of my taste.There is this young girl ,around 28 years who keeps crying that i have abandoned her.I just went to renew my fuel card and met this girl, she took my number and sent whatsapp. We became friends but at a point i stopped using my car because it was expensive,only for weekend use now and since its a modern classic daily use is a no no.So i have not renewed the card but she keeps calling just because i bought her a gift and she asked what i wanted in return and i replied nothing.Let me make a mistake and just take her home and i am screwed, she would hang on and forget that she has to look for a man to marry and i wont keep her just because she is able to take care of my emotional needs.I may just take her out for lunch one day and it would be another one year after the lunch.But some men would just do that because a desperate young lady has shown her vulnerability.My friend is a typical example, using travels abroad, money and car to keep this girl away from her men friends because she takes care of some emotional needs and probably does it well.I just pity this girl my friend is seeing.What annoys me is when she hits a snug one day, the guys she dumped because of my friend, she would start going round and the unlucky one would be hoodwinked into marriage.This girl cannot cope in any marriage because she would compare her man to the older man who gave her everything and think it is normal for her do do same because getting everything on tap was normal.