Words of Love

Words of Love

Words are not swords, yet they can kill; they are not medicine, but they can heal. Words have energy and power, sometimes they make us laugh, sometimes they make us cry. Words of love can be quickly said and quickly gone or stay forever or they might have taken some time and when they arrive they stay long or are quickly gone…No matter what happens, I believe the default state of human emotions should always be peace and a sense of calm well-being.?

When someone says : ? I love you ?,?

Say ? I love you, too ? (if you do love them)

Or ?Thank you! ? (if you don’t love them)

Don’t say : ?Really? ? (doubt)?

Or ? I don’t believe you ?(doubt plus implicit the other one is a liar)?

Or ?If that’s true, you would xxxxxxxx ?( doubt and accusations)

We should know, when someone says he loves you, at the moment he’s saying it, it is ALWAYS true, he’s not lying, even though there are different degrees of depths of the word love. It is always better to tell someone you love them than never say the word while you did feel it until it’s too late…Time is limited for everyone in this life, tell people that you love them when you have your time with them, so there’s no regret…

Human society should allow people to tell their emotional truths more easily. It is healing to be connected to our own gentle emotions and be?allowed to tell our emotional truths without complex or shame, etc.?And it is essential for us to be kind to those who tell their emotional truths. People don’t do it for several reasons.

?- They can be shy

?- Society conditioning?

?- Afraid of judgement?

?- Afraid of expectations out of their emotional truths?

- Feel afraid of bad reception from the listener.?

- They were punished in their childhood for telling emotional truths.?

We can always try to give an image or allow others to perceive us as someone that allows others to tell us their emotional truths. We can start by training our ears and patience with random people we come across every day.?

I'm always very proud of myself when people tell me their emotional truths or the truths they perceive or believe about anything without expectations.?

I bumped into an old neighbor the other day . She is the kind of person that is so old that every time I saw her I was instinctively surprised by the fact that she’s still alive. Years ago, I would see her chatting in front of the mailboxes with her woman friends. Now, most of her group of chat friends are dead. Last time I bumped into her was 2 years ago and she told me it was her former neighbor’s funeral. This time, I asked her:

“Vous allez bien?”( Are you well?)

“non, je vais pas bien!” (No, I’m not!)

“Qu’est ce qui vous arrive?”( What’s the matter?)

“J’ai mal aux jambes et aux pieds”( My legs and feet hurt)

?Vous pouvez peut-être vous masser les jambes avec de l’huile d’arnica! ?(you can maybe massage your legs with arnica oil)?

I saw her face transforming from the grumpy creases into a smiling pumpkin…She seemed happy someone listened and understood her pain, and cared enough to have proposed a solution.??

Sometimes, we have to give what’s needed to pacify a suffering soul because you might be the only person that has understood that need and can tolerate how the need was expressed or do know a solution to the need.

When I was young, I was told to always answer?the question?

“How are you?”?

With?

“I’m fine.”

Now I realized maybe greetings could be a moment of human warmth and understanding, a moment of healing for someone- perhaps you are the only person he or she talks to the whole day.?

I wish everyone lots of love or peace or both!?

Tesha Jie

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