Words & Kompa Beats—This Week’s Musings

Hi,

It’s me again. I’m here to say that most people who complain about injustice only do so because they are the oppressed. The core of many people aren’t good and I commend leaders of organizations for having the ability to work with people. I am most grateful for the people who gave me a chance to start, and I extend that grace to others who work with me on some things. I have the patience needed to teach a child to learn phonetic sounds and follow instructions to the latter which is why sometimes I never understand why people rush things or rush for them when it isn’t an emergency. However that’s by the way, my topic today is that many workers or followers, if given the role of their bosses, they would be sourly worse.?

Being bossy is not the prerequisite for a good leader. Leadership styles differ, which is true, but first, a good leader is a good follower. The humility to bring yourself down to the ground to understand things in a reality different from yours and the audacity to take yourself high up there and command attention easily are qualities a leader needs to embody. The absence of one leads to either being a tough person to work with or someone whose presence never matters and can be walked over on.

People are difficult, and the core of most of them is very selfish. I am grateful too that I have worked with good people, my colleagues; Divine, Ann, Rachel, Peri Baby, FO, Levi, Chidee, Lily, and numerous others whose names I can’t think of now from the top of my head—they make the remote work life vaster than even what the physical experience can give you. When my colleague Divin reached out to me, I kept laughing because my boss often said, “Divine is good people,” yes he is. Good followers make great leaders tomorrow, and it shows from now on. How we approach things and handle the people placed under us. Do we extend the same grace given to us as we start out? Or become dragons from the HOD series (House of Dragons) spewing fire everywhere without cause or reason just because you are on some power trip that you can pay someone. Please down to Earth president general among the nations. Lol.

This week

One thing my break has helped me do is to see the words (aka–labels) that have defined the core of who I am. Who I am is another business entirely because it is a journey that isn’t set. However, these words have remained a constant and now amplify themselves as I touch the silver jubilee this year.?

• Feminism—I am not even going to sugarcoat and say, humanist or any of those politically correct sentences when my stance is clear that I solidly belong to the divide that cheers women, wants more for them, and wishes they had all the audacity in the world to have the best life. Whatever “best life” means for them, I am the sure cheerleader.?

• Children— All causes of children tug at my heart. I wish I was rich enough to help more than I already do, but we’ll get there soon.?

• Books— My hobby is very expensive and I am a proud book collector, Kindle girlie, ebook girlie, author girlie, book club girlie, book discussion girlie, and ghostwriter girlie. Wake me up at midnight to talk books? I will be there. 100%!

• Arts and Creativity—Art calls to me. I see each piece of art as an interpretation of the artist sharing parts of them with the world. As I share my writings with words, they do so graphically. I look forward to when I shall curate art exhibitions for Prazzle for our creative Nigerian chapter wing.?

• Good food— I am not an adventurous eater as I’d love to be, but I try my best. I am anywhere good food is.

• Comfort Zone— I am a core advocate of thriving with what I have in my hands. My natural given ability, and ensuring I amplify the voice of it. It is why, when I saw this workshop, I applied well, putting my best foot forward, because all I want to do this year is put myself out there more and see what can happen within the confines of Nigeria and outside of it as well. I expand my comfort zone enough to take in space, so each side of me thrives independently within it. I also believe, “what’s meant for me is finding its way to me.”?

• Writing— I’ve always written and I’ll forever write things, in my notes, journals, happiness jars, sadness jars, and every single thing. I write more than I share. I love writing and I can’t wait to see what dynamic I bring to my writing or what next big thing I could do with it. I finished two books, and now I feel like I need to change their endings because I want to kill the characters. I write books not to be a rich author tomorrow, but just so people can read my stories and react to them.

• Kompa music— My work music is forever kompa, kizomba, or gouyad music. It makes the words flow and the reason is because my autistic side is steeming to the strings, and somehow it stimulates a certain part of my brain that enjoys working amidst chaos. This is a discovery I made in 2022.?

• Authenticity— I am a big fan of standing on the business that is you, even if you fail. I shall cheer. The other day on Substack, I read a newsletter by TOBE’S THOUGHTS, titled “Dear Diary,” Before that day ended, I saw four more newsletters following the same pattern Tobe’s newsletter followed, even the line, “This isn’t an actual journal…” kinikon something something I saw it inside the other four newsletters I read. I said, "Alright, now whose original idea was this?" And why did nobody credit anybody as their inspiration for that format? Do you know what the most powerful frequency researchers measured leaving the human body is? Authenticity. Researchers said it was 4,000 times more powerful than love! Genuine authenticity happens when your words are truthful and you believe what you're saying- Roofingcontractor

• Authenticity is also loving what you wear wholeheartedly, showing up how you want to, and being true to everything that’s you. That’s when people say, “You are too much!” yes you are because you are vibrating at a high frequency even lovers can’t reach. You are top-tier up there. No negativity can touch you, it might try but your resilience will outshine it a thousand times! That’s why when I see brands trying to copy ideas, I just sigh. You are vibrating low low baby and it shows, dare a little and look inside, then give to your audience magic! In a way authenticity feels like flowing like a natural dancer with no learned steps. Just moving to the beat as you feel it. I'm not sure that graps it entirely but it's close.

Enough of words; this is my first workshop, and I am excited for it. I can’t wait to share my ideas on gender justice through multimedia tomorrow. I seek to be nothing but my authentic self, unashamed to take space, bounce out negative thought patterns, and fall in love with the rest of this year, as I expect great things to happen for me and the people I work for and with.

I forgot the purpose of this newsletter but I hope somewhere in the long gist, you pick one or two and carry on with the rest of your day! I’m honored that you are in my corner and you read me. Thank you so much! Have a great day!

Best,

Win.