Words don't teach - Actions do!

Last month I flew 11 hours to join 2, 500 people for a 3-Day Training with one of my mentors Brendon Burchard the event was called HPX LIVE (High Performance Experience) in San Diego California, the training focused on 3 things:

Day #1: Mindset and Vitality Mastery! ?Learn the psychology, thought patterns, and energy secrets of the world's most successful people!

Day #2: Achievement Skill Building! This is the advanced productivity and goal-achievement training you've always needed!

Day #3: People Skills, Persuasion, and Leadership! Become the influential role model your family, team, and this world truly deserves!

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About 30 of us had flown Internationally to attend, from all over the world. Most of us not knowing anyone else, united by a passion to learn and to meet new people.

I was well and truly out of my comfort zone, in a new country, with no friends and jet lag, and yet loving every moment of it - I felt ALIVE!

Would you believe on the night before the event in the pre-registration queue I met someone who works around the corner from my office in the city (UK, London). We shared details and only saw each other again once when we used What's app to reunite! (we are meeting for coffee next week to catch up properly).

I got my BIGGEST breakthrough on Day 1 right after lunch, when Brendon hits us with a question that was like a punch in the face and a kick the gut.

He asked us who needs you to be a role model in your life?

An innocent question you might assume, but it flawed me.

We were divided into groups of 5 and invited to share our answers with them.

At this point, I could have made something up, or gone to the loo, but I decided to talk through the emotions I was feeling with a group of total strangers and get the lesson (a process that is known as air it, clear it, move on)! 

As each person shared their answers with the group, say things like my children, my husband, my community I could feel my blood boiling and when it was my turn the lid blew off,

“Look” I said

“I actually really resent the fact that I have to be a role model for other people, that while I risk failure and face fears way outside my comfort zone, they get to sit and watch...I want them to be my role model. Just because I am the older sister why does it always have to be me setting a good example, and another thing the pressure of being a good girl and not embarrassing my parents is demanding because everyone has different expectations...”

To their credit, they all looked at me with love and respect, no one jumped in to coach me, they simply waited until I got the lesson.

Which came as soon as I'd said the words out loud, they call admitting our weaknesses the shadow work, the things we think and feel, that most of would never share publically.

The process, if you can do it without self-judgment, is amazing...in airing something, you clear it, and in clearing it you can move on and let it go!

Too often we convince ourselves that we need to be 'perfect' and that thoughts like this are wrong, and weak, and so we bottle them up (and I had) what I expressed was a pure resentment rant.

The lesson I got was that letting go of the resentment set me free, I was no longer the victim of a story that my mind had made up...in fact, I realised almost instantaneously that:

I am my own role model first and foremost, I don’t do what I do for anyone but myself, my mission is to share my message, but my life is my legacy, I practice what I teach, people learn from what they see me do not what I say I will do! BOOM

What’s even more poignant about this story is that this was the first time I’d been back to the US in 8 years. This trip was also to celebrate the anniversary of my second chance at life and here I was learning how to be the role model for myself. 

Someone who I truly love and respect because she walks her talk.

I’m sharing this vulnerable story with you, to remind you about the power our beliefs have to limit our potential, and that once identified and released we can regain control of our lives and create the reality we deserve to be living!*

It’s a practical lesson in being the role model for yourself. 

Journaling Exercise

At this point I want to invite you to think for a moment about what you’d like your life to look like in 3 years' time, 2023 and in 5 years' time, 2025. 

Q. Who do you need to become to achieve those goals? 

What daily habits do you need to turn into a non-negotiable routine because you care MORE about how you feel day-to-day than anything else. 

No amount of money can buy back wasted time or poor health/time management decisions.

It's also why we are sharing our 8 Minute Challenge with you for free over on our website. It teaches you how to make time for yourself every day and in doing so will change your life. #8minutechallenge.

CLICK HERE to find out more and sign up.

*If this post has triggered something deeper in you don't be afraid to find the professional help you need - Mental Health is everything, its ok not to be ok.