Words Do NOT Define Us Our Intent Does!

Controversial conversation reveals more about us than it could possibly ever reveal about the other. When we are heavily engaged in a poignant conversation, we are merely having dialogue with ourselves. No one else is involved, really. Though the bottom part of the jaw, in the mouth, of the other, is moving and we can distinguish audible sounds, every word spoken is being filtered-by and through-our colored/distorted, emotionally sensitive, prefabricated, preconditioned mind and related back to us. 

It's always that way. Never do we gravitate away from ourselves. When we talk, we rarely listen and when we listen we are engaging in selective listening. In other words, we hear only what we WANT to hear, how and in what manner we choose to hear it.

We really never learn much since what we learn is merely a verification of what we want to believe it true at the time, what we think we already know, or a discrediting of what we feel is unworthy of merit and value. Our minds are fixated in one direction though we may convince ourselves of how open we believe ourselves to be. We are not expanding our mind's content when we deliberately solicit preferential material. 

Never can we discern something as absolute fact; no matter, the seemingly verifiable evidence, like we have a tendency to do. There are always too many variables involved and way too many conflicting sides to the same story. It all depends upon one's solicitously chosen perspective angle when relaying the story. In other words, the intent of the delivery determines the proportion of truth and level of merited associated. 

So many things play a part in the final revelation of adapted pertinence. Believe it or not, but It could be something as simple as what one had for lunch that particular day. Every aspect plays a part in coloring the preferred subject absorbed and relayed. An unresolved argument will be filtered into the equation as an unconscious variable of influence. 

We can never be as objective as we profess to be and certainly not as emotionally unimpressed by the events. All events involve us merely by observation. In quantum physics, the act of observing changes the object being observed. Why? Because the inference of our mind's predilection colors.

No doubt, we are meant to evolve through the various encounters we interact with and share on earth's sojourn. We are supposed to gain a broader perspective and a certain scientifically induced enlightenment once we have been introduced to new ideas and concepts. But, the truth is: we rarely change our fixed opinions.

 Our insidious need to be seen as intelligent governs our motivation. We want to be right! We want to believe we KNOW something! And, as ridiculous as it may sound, we base our rigidly entrenched opinions on the fact that if we heard it, it's almost the same as if lived it and thereby makes it believable. But, it does not make it so. 

Sadly, it can take years to move us from our staunch position of habitually self-righteous demeanor. IF, in fact, we are ever moved from our original 'stuck' position, we resent those who disturb our illusions.

Human beings are curious creatures who will battle furiously in the face of being 'shown up' to be mistaken. They will not give in but do everything in their power to prove the other wrong long after the debate has ended. It's plain ridiculous. The undeniable truth demonstrated of how much stupidity a person will display can be seen in any given hour of confrontation. 

We need simply to observe how hard he/she tries to defend the point. The more one needs to be right, the more senseless the spectacle becomes. Short of blatant ignorance, the defiantly rebellious person ends up looking like a total fool and ass, to boot.

Why do people contend and defend so much? Why do they need to demonstrate such unparalleled unawareness in the midst of proving themselves to others? Fear; yes, plain simple fear! They wouldn't know what to do with themselves if their ideas we're suddenly debauched. So deeply identified, the moment the edge of the nonsensical fabric starts to ravel; they too, feel themselves slipping away.

Away where, we may ask? Into the unknown territory of ambiguity. Somewhere they've never even visited once, for a devastating fear of not knowing how to act, what to say, how to conduct themselves in the familiar manner they've always been accustomed to.

Instead of taking that gut-wrenching liberating experience as the ticket to their long sought after freedom, from determined decisive misery, they bar up the door of their 'never before been penetrated' barricade of persevering protection. They would rather stab the messenger in the throat, (several times with sarcastic assaults on the character) so as to stop the disdainful words coming from the other.

Too much injurious slander is hurled in underlying off-handed comments of camouflaged verbal display than there is sand on the ocean. People rarely, if ever, say what they mean. They want you to do it for them by ageing or supporting their platform. And, then after you do, IF they have not resolved the matter in their own minds, will tear you to shreds for causing them to doubt what they already didn't believe in the first place but so vehemently wanted to remain convinced of. Complicated, I know, but none the less true.

Bottom line: people simply don't want to change their minds. They want to remain unmoved and unbothered by having to contemplate for the first time in their entire lives, perhaps why something is really like it is instead of merely accepting the parroted tales they been spoon fed by others. It's sort of like asking why does a person need to be saved?

 All sorts of demonstrative heated debates and rebellious defenses begin to stir. It's as if you had spit in their eyes. Why does the mention of the term 'Saved' bring on such abominable characteristics of vehement defense in displayed hatred and ill repute if another finds the whole idea incomprehensible? It's as if the term itself, invokes dastardly reprehensible shame on the speaker for having uttered the cherished word.

Saved from what? Saved from the destructive attack on the other who does not share their particular way of viewing life? Now, there's a precarious assumption one may want to take to the table of consideration. I am well aware of how touchy the subject of religion is to most. But, give me a break. Does all rationality have to flee the moment of how, when, where, what and why god enters the picture? 

Wouldn't the ineffable, sublime, sacred 'he/she/it', first and foremost, want us to ask questions in order to find out for ourselves? Isn't it written: "those who seek me diligently will find me"? Or did that statement mean we had to possess a convicted thought of superiority induced deprecating supremacy, by laying low any who would try to beset us, before we begin our search?

Nothing is left uncovered if we search with an open mind, not having the expected and/or preferred answers beforehand. All of existence is exposed for scrutinized examination. In fact, it begs for it. We cannot separate even one 1/10000000000th of a grain of salt as not being intimately connected in our lofty search for meaning and in some way relevant to our particular walk. 

The people, places, doubts, events, tragedies, things, words, signs, food we ingest, all play a pertinent part in the bio-electro-magnetic chemical make-up of our lives. Food for the hungry, curious brain. We need examine carefully those caricatures, thought, beliefs, convictions, which rise up each and every day, from our own prejudiced, biased and one-sided preferential high-minds to learn how to grow unfailingly, unceasingly and unimaginably to embrace everything and everyone.

It's all a matter of learning to accept universally and love unconditionally. Remember: our self-intoxicated presumptive motives speak, ever so loudly and clearly, before we even open our mouths.