Women In Leadership Suffer In Silence

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It's no secret that workplace stress can cause many mental, physical, and emotional ailments, from people having strokes at their desks to others completely losing it and committing violent acts in and outside of the workplace.

Women in leadership tend to suffer in silence for many reasons, most of them stemming from fear:

• Fear of being looked at differently
• Fear of people thinking that they can't handle the job
• Fear of people talking about them behind their backs
• Fear of someone else taking their jobs
• Fear of not getting a decent raise, promotion, or bonus
• Fear of not being asked to participate in networking events
• and many more

These fears tend to keep women from speaking up when they are:

• Treated unfairly
• Discriminated against due to the color of their skin
• Asked to do their work AND the work of their male counterparts
• Expected to do twice the amount of work as their white counterparts
• Being verbally and mentally abused by management or coworkers

Whatever the reason, it's time you started looking out for yourself! You and only YOU can set the tone for how you are treated. As I tell my clients, "you teach people how to treat you."?

To change the corporate/workplace abuse cycle, you need to build your confidence to the point where you recognize that it is NOT OKAY for you to be treated this way. Once you can see this and believe it is true, you must find the courage, confidence, support, and steps you need to take to ensure your psychological safety in the workplace. Is it your responsibility? Should the workplace be held accountable?

Yes! The workplace should be held accountable. However, you cannot sit around and wait for this to happen; you must begin to stand up for yourself. Not doing so will affect your work life and every area of your life.?

I have a few tough love questions to ask you. Ready? Let's get to it.

• Is it worth becoming sick and going on long-term disability or leaving the workforce altogether?
• Is it worth your relationships with your family?
• Is it worth disrupting or losing your marriage?
• Is it worth the mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual pain only to be replaced when someone is more confident in their abilities??
• Or are more willing and confident enough to stand up for themselves and command what their worth?
• How long will you remain a doormat for others, allowing them to practice being a leader on you while their bonuses keep piling up due to your contribution, yet you're being treated less than others?

Here are a few examples of the damage that workplace stress can cause if not managed properly:

Physically:

• Upset stomach
• Muscle tension or pain
• Chest pain
• Fatigue (including chronic)
• Change in sex drive
• Migraine headaches

Mentally and Emotionally:

• Anxiety
• Restlessness
• Lack of focus/motivation
• Feeling overwhelmed
• Anger or irritability
• Depression or sadness

Behaviorally:

• Over/undereating
• Alcohol/drug abuse
• Tobacco use
• Social withdrawal
• Mood swings
• Outbursts?

To name a few. I'm not even going to mention the effects these things have on women pre and post-menopausal women here in this article. If interested, I invite you to go to my podcast. I dedicated an entire month to menopause on my podcast in 2021 during October (National Menopausal Awareness Month) to share the challenges women go through during this time in their lives. Feel free to listen to those episodes if interested.

Do you resonate with any of the symptoms/ailments above? Are you right in the middle of this stressful season and find yourself completely overwhelmed?

I know you are. I've been there too.?

The difference for me now is that I am no longer available for this type of stress. I am not willing to go through this time of year, dreading the months responsibilities at this stage in my life. I've created a space where I can now get things done within a limited timeframe with limited resources. I've also figured out how to do it without driving myself, my team, or my family crazy.

Podcast episode #24 provides support for this very topic. In this episode,?How to Manage End-of-Year Planning and Overwhelm. I shared an easy process for wrapping up the current year's responsibilities while preparing for the new year in both your personal and professional lives. I had hoped this episode and its free downloads helped its listeners breathe easier and stress less, and if you listen to it, I'd like to share it with you too.

Be sure to take advantage of the free starter end-of-year checklist/spreadsheet to help you get started breaking things down and an additional resource on how to be a detail-oriented manager. The links to the podcast episode and the two free resources are below.

If you're ready to discuss how I can help you or the women at your organization grow your confidence and find your voice, or if you have questions on how to use the templates, reach out to me at https://anitacharlot.com/contact.

Podcast link:?How to Manage End-of-Year Planning and Overwhelm

Featured on the Show:

• Follow this link to download your FREE End-of-Year Planning Template.
• Download?10 Tips on How to be a Detailed-Oriented Manager?to help efficiently manage details, projects, and even yourself!

Anita Charlot?is the CEO of?Relationship Architect Academy LLC, Creator, and host of?The Happy Executive Woman podcast, Creator of?For My Black And Brown Sistahs?(membership community coming soon),?ACTivate Your Privilege!??and author of?The 5 Phases of Dating ~ Grown-Ass Woman's Guide to Attracting and Maintaining Authentic Relationships.

As an Executive Coach for Women, Anita specializes in teaching women of color how to heal from corporate trauma and increase their confidence and leadership skills. She also coaches white allies and consults with conscious organizations, teaching them how to?ACTivate Your Privilege!?

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