WOMEN AS AN EMERGING MARKET

WOMEN AS AN EMERGING MARKET

Let's discuss women in business, but from a different angle. Looking toward the future rather than past perceived blocks, we can all agree Women Are An Emerging Market.

I originally created this topic as a program I facilitated in 2019 to NASDAQ global for their WIN group (Women in Nasdaq). It was such a hit I've continued to develop this program as the workplace transforms responding to how the world becomes more conscious.

Before you read too far into this blog I want to be transparent in my views on women in business being kept down and apart from greater success and money by men. In life we struggle regardless whether man or woman. It can be tempting to blame some external construct.

Those constructs can be the: economy, the market, our boss/co-workers, client(s) and the list continues in a plethora of possibilities. The problem with submitting to these perceived efforts against us is we become powerless on the inside, or shall I say even more powerless. It is the feeling of powerlessness and the accompanying self talk that creates the external experiences. Where we keep ourselves down is believing the reflection to be the truth rather than just that, a reflection of how we see ourselves. Truth is we struggle against ourselves and that struggle is out pictured onto others.

Now, before you go shooting the messenger, stay with me. I have a story to tell you that will not only touch your heart but will enable you to shift your perception of what you are able to change and create and how truly capable you are to rise above all limitations. Including when you perceive you are under attack and the odds are stacked against you.

Truly my Mother's daughter, growing up I witnessed her vacillate between being an empowered, fierce and formidable creator and struggling with believing in herself. The former was truly an exhilarating high to watch and be a part of. We were grain farmers with several sections of farm land and pasture land where we ran about 100+ head of cattle. Hereford mostly, a some Angus and my Mom's favorite addition, a few Shorthorn.

That doesn't sound too terribly intriguing except that my Mom did this all on her own. My Father died when I was seven so my Grandfather gave her a crash course in farming before passing when I was 10. All of this during an era when a woman's domain was in the kitchen and if she worked outside of the home is was always in a subservient role. To that end she came from banking before marrying my Dad.

I marveled at her strength, tenacity and fortitude one day and was confused by her insistence "they" were holding her back the next day. The emotions of my life were like a roller coaster as I rode the wave of self sabotage with her. More on that in another blog about Childhood Trauma & It's Impact on Adults in Business . I recently aired a podcast on that very subject.

As my adolescence progressed I collected data on these wildly emotional experiences on a consistent basis. I began to see patterns. When she was "in her power" believing in herself, determinedly connected to her goals, focused on her success, her external world reflected this feeling back to her in tangible results. She was fun, happy and full of ideas for the future success of our farm.

When she felt like a victim and projected that vision of herself and her life outwardly with her intense feelings "they" seemed to rally against her doing their best to hold her back and/or take advantage of her because she was a woman. At least that was the meaning she gave to the experience. How could it be other than she was a woman? This was the inner dialogue. That reflection would come back at her so intensely it was unsettling. So much so she convinced herself it was being "done to her" rather than its origin being within her so intense her feelings. Depression would overcome her thoughts and life had a black cloud over it. We would become hermits isolated from society for weeks at a time.

The irony is the men (farmers) accepted her and supported her most of the time. If there was a hick up in that and it wasn't her self doubt being projected into the dynamic, it was them feeling her as competition. This wasn't about her sex, it was about each individual's own sense of lack.

Whatever her sex, when she was in her power, they felt the competition and handled it as such. They would and did the same with the male farmers. It was her perception that gave it meaning. There were times she turned up her inner self with greater resolve and gained even more respect and support. Human nature loves strength and tends to resent weakness.

We all like to be around those that are aligned and on their game. We tend to run from those in fear or weakness.

"The only cause of the experience of life is one's imaginable activity. Your state of consciousness is always being externalized in the world. To repent is the have a radical change in attitude." Neville Goddard.

The feeling is the secret. How one feels about themselves is how one lives and experiences life. I found I had taken on many of my Mother's emotional programs and I was perpetuating my own roller coaster emotional ride through life. I had to a decision to make: was I going to continue to struggle thinking things outside of me determined my success or was I going to build a new reality within and master my feelings directing them only toward what I desired.

Women Are An Emerging Market when this tool is applied. As we master our imagination and discipline our feelings to only be toward what we desire, the perceived opposition dissolves. If there is an advantage men have is they are taught this as boys. From a very young age we as parents tend to program our boys to decide what we want and go after it and as a result of that unspoken ideal, men do rally around men to transcend limitations and gain traction on success. They do that too for women who also project that feeling. The feeling of being a champion with no opposition but rather with the support of the entire Universe at our back and leading us toward success.

As a Coach & Speaker I am often the only woman in the room, as the expert leading the discussion. I see myself that way and I experience it the same way I feel about myself. It is my observation as more and more women embrace this awareness, they too will rise above any perceived blocks or obstacles and step into their own greatness taking their sex out of the equation.

It is very important that you not approach life with split energy. Split energy of hoping for the best while planning for the worst will certainly bring the worst into being.

When entering an opportunity if you split your energy between thinking you can accomplish your objectives yet doubting your ability then you will surely suffer. Splitting energy between; 'they won't let me/pay me enough/pay me the same as my counter part/acknowledge me/my work' and 'I am capable/talented and equal, then you will cause yourself great distress'.

It will seem like "they" are blocking you because that is what will show itself to you and reflect the very belief that you hold in your vibration and project into the world back to you through life experiences/situations. So as women awaken to this realization they too have the same power as any man for this power lies not in our anatomical make-up but rather in our own imagination. The image we hold within ourselves being out pictured by our feelings to only come back to us as real experiences.

Take ownership of your power and step into it by aligning within. The idea isn't to have power over but to embrace and align your inner power, the image you hold of yourself.

It is all energy being expressed outwardly from within the depths of the relationship between our conscious and our unconscious mind. The part of us that creates ideas and the part of us that executes on those ideas with effective and strategic action. The female (receptive) energy that creates through feelings and the male (action) part of us that executes on the image within.

When an individual stops warring against themselves, life is an amazing place filled with success, wealth, wonder, loving friends, inspired teams and grand outcomes.

Change how you see yourself, match your feelings to the new image and the Universe delivers. Always.

Let me know how this works in your life and business. You don't have to take my word for it, give this a go for 21 days and circle back. I'd love to hear how your business grows and your new level of happiness shows up.

?Deborah Peters 2022