Shun A Victory that Makes You Shine In Your Own Darkness!!

It was about a teacher. I liked the way she taught and my friend didn't. We argued over that. And slowly those arguments started turning into little fights and then one day we stopped talking to each other. It happened 46 years ago. We have still not talked. Argument on something so silly. The teacher never even came to know about it. When I look back I find that there were so many situations where my victory in an argument turned out to be a defeat because I would lose the relationship,

"An argument is always about what has been made important than the relationship.."Hugh Prather

And then we do find few things which we, in that particular intense moment, feel are more important than the relationship. We defend and continue to defend. Till the other person surrenders or moves away.

Then we stand alone - victorious, shining in our own darkness.

Can we celebrate an event as a victory that in reality makes us lose a lot more? And then most of us on occasions act as such 'losers'. We spend a lot of time arguing on things which do not add any value anywhere because of the nature of arguments on the topics which really do not matter much.

Next time let us catch ourselves when we are arguing on movies or food or sex or friends or colour and design of clothes or a theater or a restaurant or a musical or a book or even a joke or the looks of a stranger etc. Oh, the list can be endless.

Let us know and respect that like us everyone else too has a right to different preferences.

My prayer for today: "May God help me not to enter into an argument to gloat in a false victory. Let me win by helping the other person feel enhanced. "

RS:)

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