Win Your Next Argument

Have you ever been in an argument and just knew you were right?

There's no chance that you were wrong, but the other person wouldn't budge.

What did you do, how did you react?

Did you stick to your guns and start to yell, since it seems that some people think if you are louder you are more convincing?

Or did you just give up?

Whatever you did was probably meant to prove your point. The problem with this strategy has to do with what happens during an argument.

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When there's a conflict between two people you have two beliefs.

And when beliefs come under attack, they become?personal.

This is what I believe, and this is what you believe.

So during an argument that situation becomes, this is who I am, and this is who you are.

If I try to change who you are, then you are more than likely going to dig your heels in and protect your identity.?

The more I fight against how you've defined yourself, the more you have to protect yourself, and the more closed off you are to alternative ideas/points.

But, if I was to try to understand your argument then I have your cooperation, and instead of arguing we can have a conversation.

The best way to prove you're right in an argument is to take the time to learn more about why someone thinks you're wrong.

Instead of arguing against someone's identity, you can discuss how that identity (belief) was formed, which opens up a world of possibilities for persuasion through conversation.

Arguing doesn't change minds.

Minds change because you spark curiosity.

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Thanks for listening everyone,

- Ben

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