Win by failing to judge

Never judge anything from your perspective. In the best case, never even assume anything from the single side view.

I was travelling by bus last week, and the driver stopped at a bus stop. Knowingly or unknowingly, it blocked the passing bus. The driver of the bus behind began honking, urging the passengers to board despite the fact that they had already done so. Passengers' irritability is pumping and tolerability is declining for every other horn. Even so, I lost my patience at a point, and thoughts started popping up like

• Why the hell is he horning this much?
• Is he using any common sense or not?
• What will he accomplish in these two minutes?
• How did people get in and out?
• Why aren't people more generous and kind?

Then, I noticed the outraging anger in many faces, some hinting at the cues of companionship from belonging to the same team. The passengers of the front bus, seeing them as a team with uniform kits, were victimised by the cruelty of the horn. like people becoming friends only through common enemies. The lifeline and the bond of those friendships deepen through apathy, not empathy. A similar coldness started to prevail here.

WAITTTTT…?

Is this normal? What do they think, and how do they think they would react if they were on the second bus? It might have something like

• Why is this idiot parking the bus in the middle of the road?
• Don’t you have any common sense?
• Nobody is concerned about the latecomers and others like them?

Then, there might be the formation of a new team with different coloured outfits but with a similar wave of enmity and coldness toward the opposition. This might be the real scenario on the second bus.

I feel this is how the pattern of assumptions and judgements works in most cases. Our clear vision is frequently a distorted version of the location, time, situation, and path we have taken. We could observe many similar events in our daily routines. Since then, we've been conditioned to think, behave, and react in the same way to every event. The habitual action comes effortlessly and even unconsciously at times. Change may occur by following the cycle: observe, become aware, analyze, accept, avoid, and awaken.?

Let us start to win by failing to judge.

Divyaprasanth