A Wife's Perspective after turning 50

I noticed 50 years old is a make or break year for many of us. Its a time when the kids are out of the house, and we find ourselves as empty nesters. Many are already grandparents. Some may even be thinking of retiring soon. It can be a great time in our lives or a terrible time, and it really all is due to 1 thing, your past.

I am a very strong Christian and as a follower of Christ, we are taught in the bible that old things have past away and all things have become new. I live very much like that, the only time I reference my past, which by the way, I no longer identify ,associate or partner with. Is when I am sharing my testimony of Gods amazing grace on how I have had victory over it.

I have been married close to 16 years and I am a bit older than my husband, from the beginning we were polar opposites, in our diet, health, habits, and choices. I guess what they say is true opposites do attract. The reason I am mentioning him is the very reason why I am writing this article.

My background has been in the wellness industry for 30 years, personal training, nutrition, and now my current is I am founder/CEO of a wellness academy.

My husband's background is auto body collision work.

We are both entrepreneurs and really support each other with our business, its a great match.

I am 51 years young and my husband just turned 50 and shortly after he turned 50 he started complaining about chest pains for a few months and eventually ended up in the hospital with heart issues, he had a mild heart attack. Now this did not really surprise me, he has been a smoker since he was 11 years old, and has tried to quit many times with no success. Also his late night eating habits also played a huge part I believe in this reaction, I also want to add his scotch habits as well, he likes a few classes of scotch especially when we go out to dinner, which is quite often. Although we both love to cook, so we do eat home more often then go out.

After 5 days in the hospital it made me think about life and how much I need and love my husband and how devastated I would be without him by my side. I am very blessed, although we have had our share of problems, to the point of a short separation that almost led to a divorce. But God, (I love saying that) But God, always turns things around no matter what the circumstance is.

I think we get into a comfort zone within our marriages after the honeymoon is over, for us that was when our son was born;we got pregnant on our honeymoon. So instantly we were husband and wife and mom and dad, a lot to handle in a new marriage. The one thing that I have learned in all these years, I don't nag it just makes him do the opposite. So I let him come to his own conclusion on how and what he should do when it comes to his health, which is sad because I am one of the best people who can steer him in the right direction but no such luck he has to learn the hard way; which is so hard to watch him make the choices he makes with his health, but what can I do? I tried telling him and it pushes him farther away from the goals to get him to live healthy lifestyle.

So after all that being said...

Here is my conclusion

As soon as someone turns 50 years old this age will determine how we live the next 50. I have realized that it is totally determined on how we lived the first 49 years. We actually have to look into our past and it will accurately give you a snap shot of your future, if you continue to make the same choices you did years prior to 50 years old. Now I am not just talking about diet and fitness or( lack of in some cases), but with business, finances, investments, relationships and choices.

Go back in time to the last 49 years, really since birth, examine the traumas, patterns, thoughts words, and choices which all brought you to where you are today. I truly believe that 50 is the mark of where we can really get a good idea where we are going in the next years. Are you going to live the next years the same way you did previous? We all have a choice to live differently so that the next years are healthier, fitter, wealthier and happier, It starts today the very choices we choose to make today and into the future. This is the breaking point of how we progress into our later years it can either decline us or move us forward.

We can either progress positively or negatively depending on what we do from 50 years on we can erase the past 50 years of lifestyle and progress to the better or we can choose to stay the same and decline and progress worse.

Me personally I choose to progress on to a healthier happier wealthier life.