Why your wife is no more interested in you?

You were attracted to each other, crazy about each other. Then you got married. You were like the happiest couple on planet earth. Romance, love, understanding all were so good. Then what happened that she started losing interest in you? Why she is frustrated with the relationship?

Simple answer.

Not showing interest in your woman's life.

Context

You have come back from a job, you have had your pressure and your difficulties. You come back home and want to watch TV, relax. You are not interested in knowing what is going on with her. You get busy with WhatsApp, you are interested in knowing what BS Modi is doing but not in her. You are interested in knowing what silly jokes people have sent you in WhatsApp but not in her.

Change the perspective

Put yourself in her perspective and think, you are waiting for someone for the entire day. That person comes to meet you and that person doesn't want to know anything about you, how does it feel?

Every time, she has to start a conversation about herself, or you would go on blabbering about your own difficulties, how bad your boss was, how bad certain meeting went and so on. This puts her into emotional isolation where she feels deep within that you do not care for her anymore.

Why women have to talk a lot?

Remember this, women feel deep emotions, and they need those emotions to come out, for those emotions to come out, she needs to talk to someone. Accept the evolutionary and genetic difference. Their emotional brain/story brain/reptile brain is much stronger than you. Due to this, they feel way more emotional kick than you do. Talking(may it be laughing or complaining or arguing or whatever) is a way for her to release that inner emotional suffocation.

So, if she is not talking to you, she will be talking to someone else. If it is not you then, it is going to be someone else. Because she has to talk.

Women try to express their emotions by talking, which you find boring, because you try to find a logic in what they talk. It is like one is talking in Spanish and the other is trying to understand in Hindi.

Solution

Here are some simple communication patterns you can use to initiate her to talk and LISTEN with real interest.

1) Honey, you look so tired today, has it been a lot of work?

2) Your eyes are sparkling, looks like you want to share something special about today. Tell me what it is.

3) You were reading a novel, did you finish it? Tell me the story.

4) If she is also a working woman, hey, did you complete the assignment you had to? or, what was the most boring part of your meeting today? Tell me, is that bald guy in your office still watches you from sidelines?

Men are more visual but women are more imaginative.

5) Give her an opportunity to imagine and express. Take her to roof, show the moon and say "you are looking at the moon? Imagine how many couples since thousands of years are looking at it?"

A woman's biggest weakness is WORDS, the biggest limitation is her imprisoned emotions. Play with words and trigger those emotions.

Conclusion

Let me summarize this post. If you are serious about keeping a healthy relationship and want your wife to be happy and attracted to you, talk to her and let her express her imagination and feelings.

Remember this,

A woman is emotionally programmed. It is nearly impossible for her to change. But for man, everything is an algorithm. If there is a problem P, then there must surely be some reasons r1,r2,r3...rn. If you take step s1,s2,s3, you can reach to the desired outcome D.

When they can not change and you can, why blame and complain about them? Take a lead and fix it.

Internalize this, if you can not give your girl a dose of dopamine, you would lose her. Make her want to talk to you, she would give her life for you. And if she is silent, she wouldn't even feel your existence for a second.

Disclaimer:- I am an Evolutionologist. All my believes and theology on relationships are based on Ethology, Evolutionology, Evolutionary Psychology, and Female Psychology. I don't believe in gender equality. Biologically a man and a woman are different, with different sets of advantages and drawbacks. We have succeeded historically as a species by acknowledging this difference and complementing each other.

Hardcore brainwashed feminists and so-called MGTOWs may both find my posts on relationships equally uncomfortable. You are welcome if you believe that a healthy relationship between a man and a woman is key to success in personal and professional life. You will be disappointed if you are looking for a feminine or masculine imperative of the world.