WHY YOUR RESENTMENT IS A VALUABLE TEACHER

What do you get resentful about, my friend?

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For me, it's usually that a client asks me to do something?

I consider way too junior for where I am in my professional journey.

Or I feel someone is wasting my time, being inconsiderate.

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You do have something like that too, don't you?

I feel we all do.

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It might surprise you, but resentment can be quite the teacher.

This is why I have recently encouraged a lot of my clients to?

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FOLLOW THE RESENTMENT!

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Why is that??

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When you look at what you are resentful about in your life,??

it gives you a very good idea of what matters to you.

So you know what to make a top priority on your “take action” list.

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But?here's the caveat:

You?really?have to stay away from blaming the other person.?

It's perfectly possible that they are an inconsiderate jerk.

But to benefit from the lessons resentment can teach us,

we can't think about who pushed our button or why.?

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We need to look at the button.??

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What is it with that button??

What do you respond to?

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Good starting points – especially but not only at work – are:

• Money: maybe you get resentful when you are not paid enough
• Time: maybe you respond strongly when people make you wait
• Status: maybe being questioned in your expertise throws you
• Peace of mind: maybe you get angry when others unload stress on you

Starting there, you'll get to the juicy stuff –

the thing that?really?ticks you off:

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Do you feel disrespected?

Not seen or heard?

Patronized, not taken seriously?

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Whatever it is for you,

find?your?reason and you have something to work with.

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And just as an apropos:

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Resentment is such a good starting point to think about?

where we want to make changes because:

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esentment is a feeling we allow ourselves.??

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That's a big deal, especially for women.

Most of us are?very?careful with publicly displayed emotions.

Anger? Hurt? Sadness??

None of those is really acceptable at the workplace.

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But resentment is very accepted –

probably because it doesn't come across as “too strong” to others.

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Which doesn't mean that most of us handle it well.

It still makes us?react?instead of?respond.

It's getting defensive for me,

it might be shutting down or getting passive-aggressive for you.

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But we'll work on changing that another time.

For now, let's follow the resentment with curiosity –

and see what we uncover.

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Let me know how this resonates!

I'd love to hear from you.

Love, Micha

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