Why Your Inner Critic Is So Loud (& It's NOT Because She's Working Against You)

Ever wonder why your inner critic is so loud? She serves a purpose too..

That purpose is often MOTIVATION for CHANGE.

She’s actually trying to help you meet your goals, she’s just going around the wrong way to do it.

For me, that internal voice was always so punishing, harsh and critical. I realised that she was the ONLY solid internal motivation I actually had towards my goals

And I needed her because I couldn’t understand how to get there otherwise.

Sure, I could get myself there using myself like a punching bag. I could be frustrated and pushing and harsh and get myself there..

But that is a horrible way to live..

Creating your own anxiety..

Never measuring up to your own standards of perfection.

What you must shift is to first recognise that none of this is actually the voice of you - your authentic self. It’s the voice of a version of you who is covering for a part of you still in survival mode.. a part of you that NEEDS THIS.

That NEEDS you to reach that goal so she can feel significant, so she can feel seen and heard and valued. So she can feel safe.

Once these deeper needs are taken care of.. your inner critic doesn’t need to be beating on you all the time. She gets to take a break, and only clocks on when a need isn’t being met.

And then she just becomes an alert system for you to notice, “wow, I’m being so harsh with myself today.. what’s actually going on for me?”

Inner critic as an alert system is a far better role for her than as a motivational coach

I know you’ve tried all sorts of things for your anxiety and inner critic, and this is a way that actually WORKS.

You don’t have to live from a place of self-beating and shame. You can live with a more relaxed and fun internal world while being free to be your most authentic and impactful self.