Why your emotions are a vital part of your success

In a couple of weeks, I will be holding a retreat day to address the hot topic of how we can Emotionally heal, and why it's so important.

After a lifetime of experiencing what it's like to have your emotions run the show and not even be aware of it, I know more than most the consequences of having them run riot. Every decision made has to be questioned, self trust is impossible and intuition....forget it.

When the energy of the past is dancing with the present, what you feel about the future is going to feel like your chances of winning the lottery. Slim.

To not be in control of your life, or at least have a strong say in it, leaves you taxed and vulnerable after a period of time. You stop believing in your abilities and instead try and prepare yourself for failures, you expect things to go wrong and every time they do, you lose a little more faith.

Your belief system is replaced by one of pessimism. The world becomes a battlefield and the heart sinks further into the mud, with each disappointment.

Regardless of what you want, your belief system is programmed to talk you out of it. It's not for you, people like you don't do things, have things and achieve things like that..NO, NO, NO. don't you dare set yourself up for even more failure by trying!!

Until one day, you have had enough, the sadness of the past is too heavy for you to shrug off on a daily basis and nothing seems to work. You are tired of fighting and only now are you ready to take the first step. To let go.

To release the memories, that you are replaying every day and that hold you in negativity. To embrace not caring about judgement or being seen as imperfect.

To begin to like you warts and all and allow happiness in through the simplicities of life.

This is when you start to become aware of everything that has always been around you, but you've been too locked in the past to notice. To forgive others for their wrongdoings because now you know they too needed emotional healing and were nine times out of ten, acting from an unhealthy place too.

As you move into a place of Emotional intelligence, you begin to realise that everything you do has an impact on others, that we are all connected and in order to draw more of what you love to you, you must come from love. You may say as you read this 'But I did and they still hurt me.' 'Or it still went wrong.' And I will ask you to look a little deeper and seek the fear that was really driving you.

Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of loneliness, of being too much or not enough. Of holding on too tightly or not holding on at all, for the fear that what you desire in your heart, could never be for you.

Allowing the pain of the past to sit within you, neither giving it the power to dictate your next move and influence you, is key. No more stuffing it down, grabbing onto a moment of instant gratification, but instead choosing to face the discomfort and accept that feelings are indeed just that. Sensations in the body that don't have to mean much at all, especially ones from the past.

My choices of action, these days are based more on being me and what gives me happiness, regardless of what is going on around me. I've learnt to trust my heart again and live in it, a lot more than I used to. You see the brain is a memory bank, that likes to stir up the past, the heart holds your dreams and desires and is far more likely to guide you to all the things you love.

And if you are doing what you love, you are always going to be in a winning position.

heal' and why its so important.