Why you should NEVER underestimate yourself?

When you do not have confidence in your own capabilities

You start to underestimate yourself!

It's a recipe for disaster that makes most diverse women feel they don't belong.

People think skills & expertise will get them promoted; it won’t!

When it comes to securing a promotion, the women I work with are often given a bunch of ‘reasons ‘ why it can’t happen, despite working 10x harder!!

Which leaves most women feeling frustrated, confused or stuck not really knowing what to do next.

I recognise this as one of the biggest saboteurs for diverse talent

Holding yourself back from accomplishing your goals!

When we underestimate ourselves we limit our experiences and it is easier to find reasons not to move forward.

Dump the ‘constructive feedback’ & investing even more in qualifications!

This might sound odd, but it's not that someone should be completely devoid of knowledge in their subject matter.?In hybrid, people need good leaders and managers, not experts leading teams!!!!

Instead, consider your role in the wider structure of your team and plan your next steps more effectively:?

? Where does the company plan to expand?

? How does this relate to your function?

? What will it take to get to that next stage??

Sometimes there may be factors outside your control. But, being self-aware of your strengths and weaknesses or working well with others are far more important.

As a leader, creating an environment that encourages diverse talent to share their thoughts and ideas without fear of judgement or retribution is vital.

Maybe, it is time to recognise your own worth and stop excluding yourself from many of the amazing opportunities being overlooked.

7 Ways to stop underestimating yourself

If you have been feeling in your gut something isn't right and you are settling for less than you deserve. It might be because you are underestimating yourself and writing off opportunities that come your way.

Stop looking at your own deservings with suspicious eyes and underestimate your own talent and start doing more of these things;

1. Stop People Pleasing - This is often how we feel accepted or in the workplace gain recognition. If this is at the cost of your needs or your mental health this will always be too expensive and lead to a place of emptiness. Never model yourself on other people's expectations, but show up as yourself.
2. Move On QUICKLY! Often when people do or say things to hurt you the automatic response is to retreat inward and find solace within. Being an island is lonely and you will only go so far. Instead of staying hurt act QUICKLY and just take the next step forward, no matter how big or small it is. You will always be able to take something positive from the situation. Keep moving forward.....
3. Embrace The Naysayers The taller you stand and the greater you show up, expect the naysayers. It is disappointing if they are your family or friends. This is normal when you are succeeding, people will often not be happy for you. But, that's ok......keep going you will find your tribe, or people who celebrate with you!
4. Increase your Confidence. Get a coach, mentor or accountability partner. Someone outside of your circle who is objective but who will also become one of your BIGGEST cheerleaders celebrating your wins. When you find someone you trust or a place where you feel confident make sure to celebrate every single victory or breakthrough.
5. Tap into your Strengths - Knowing your strengths and turning them into 'I AM...." statements will be one of your greatest superpowers. Your identity is at the core of who you are and everything you do. Celebrating or rewarding your small wins will strengthen your inner voice of self compassion. You need this....These "I AM" statements will become anchors on your road to success, especially when things are not going to plan!
6. Be a Giver - This is counterintuitive, especially when you never have anything spare to give regardless of it being time, money or other valuable resources. But, the act of giving takes the attention off you. You can only truly embrace others and show up and give value when you let go of your ego.
7. Stay Humble - When you are constantly defending your existence or justifying a seat at the table. It is normal to feel like giving up but DON'T! You are ENOUGH...

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