Why You Should Mentor Someone

Last week, we discussed how to level up your skills as a leader. One of the quickest and most impactful ways to grow is by finding a mentor—or becoming one yourself. Whether you're seeking guidance or sharing your expertise, mentorship creates opportunities to learn, build connections, and achieve meaningful goals. Below are actionable tips for mentees and mentors to make the most out of the mentoring experience.

Why Mentorship Matters

Mentorship offers immense benefits, including:

• Skill development: Learn new approaches and enhance your abilities.
• Fresh perspectives: Gain insights you might not have considered.
• Networking: Build relationships that open new opportunities.
• Meaningful connections: Foster lasting, mutually beneficial relationships.

Let’s explore how you can succeed as either a mentee or mentor.

If You Have a Mentor

Having a mentor is like having a trusted advisor who helps guide you through challenges and decisions. Here’s how to build a successful mentorship:

1. How to Find a Mentor

Look for someone with experience in your field or whose leadership style inspires you. Reach out via email, LinkedIn, or even a phone call. Keep your message polite and concise—share why you’re reaching out, what you’d like to learn, and suggest a brief introductory meeting. You’ll be surprised how many people are willing to help.

2. Set Clear Expectations

Establish ground rules upfront, such as:

• Meeting frequency: Monthly or bi-weekly meetings work well for most mentorships.
• Meeting length: 30-60 minutes is a good range.
• Format: Decide if you’ll meet in person, over video calls, or on the phone. Lunch meetings can also be a great option.

3. Prepare an Agenda for Each Meeting

A clear agenda keeps your meetings productive. Share it in advance if possible. For example:

• Personal updates (5-10 minutes).
• Review of action items from the last meeting (5-10 minutes).
• Discussion of current challenges or questions (15-20 minutes).
• Setting goals or next steps (5 minutes).

4. Does Gender Matter?

Not necessarily. Focus on finding someone whose expertise aligns with your goals. However, it’s okay to prefer a mentor of the same gender if it makes you feel more comfortable discussing sensitive topics.

5. Take Notes and Follow Through

Capture key insights from your meetings and act on agreed-upon steps. This demonstrates respect for your mentor’s time and helps you stay accountable.

6. Should You Pay Your Mentor?

Most informal mentorships are unpaid, but professional coaching relationships may involve payment. Be upfront about this during your initial conversation.

7. Build a Long-Term Connection

Even after formal meetings end, keep in touch. Sharing updates on your progress shows your appreciation and reinforces the relationship.

If You Are the Mentor

Mentoring is a rewarding way to share your knowledge and grow as a leader. Here’s how to be an effective mentor:

1. Understand Your Mentee’s Goals

Start by clarifying their objectives. Ask questions like:

• What do you want to achieve in the next 6-12 months?
• What skills are you working to develop?
• What challenges are you currently facing?

2. Set Boundaries and Expectations

Define the scope of the relationship upfront:

• Frequency: Monthly meetings are common but adjust based on your schedules.
• Availability: Let your mentee know how best to contact you for quick questions.
• Time commitment: Be clear about how much time you can realistically dedicate.

3. Share Practical Tips and Experiences

Offer actionable advice based on your own experiences, such as:

• “Here’s how I handled a similar situation.”
• “These resources might be helpful.”
• “Try breaking this task into smaller, manageable steps.”

4. Encourage and Challenge

Support your mentee by:

• Celebrating their wins.
• Pushing them outside their comfort zone.
• Asking thoughtful questions to expand their perspective.

5. Use a Flexible Agenda

Structure your meetings around key areas like:

• Reviewing progress and challenges.
• Brainstorming strategies or solutions.
• Offering feedback and setting goals for the next session.

6. Does Gender Matter?

As a mentor, focus on addressing your mentee’s needs rather than gender. However, be mindful of creating a supportive environment, especially when discussing sensitive topics.

7. Reflect on Your Growth

Mentoring is a two-way street. Take time to reflect on what you’ve learned through the experience—it’s an opportunity to sharpen your leadership and communication skills.

Tips for a Successful Mentorship Relationship

• Be Consistent: Stick to your agreed schedule to build trust.
• Communicate Clearly: Share expectations and provide honest, constructive feedback.
• Respect Each Other’s Time: Come prepared for meetings and stay focused.
• Stay Flexible: Be open to adjusting goals as circumstances change.
• Express Gratitude: Always thank your mentor or mentee for their time and effort.

Ryan Giles