Why You Have to Unlearn to Relearn
According to The Gottman Institute,?two-thirds of the arguments couples have are perpetual?— meaning they fight about the same things today that they fought about five years ago.
I think the same is true for the struggles we have within ourselves. We will often spend time going back and reworking some of the internal battles we think we’ve already won.?
If we really want to get meta here, we could say humankind is grappling with the same things today that Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius was dealing with when he wrote?Meditations?back in Ancient Rome.
So, what’s the point?
We’re on a continual journey of unlearning and relearning. The point is less about getting it right and more about whom we become in the process of figuring it out.
I was on a recent trip to San Diego, and I had a revelation that I’ve had before and needed to revisit.
Here it is:
At times, I overwork myself to the point of having so many balls in the air instead of concentrating my focus on one, two, or three things that are all working together.
After flying for nearly 15 hours and changing planes in four states, I woke up to the fact that I need to trust the process and let go.?
I need to not worry about everything and say “no” more often so that we can say “yes” to the right opportunities. As a team, we need to really, really focus on simplifying how we do everything.
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So, while I was traveling, instead of spending my downtime writing the next book or on a conference call, I called myself up and out. I asked myself to go deeper into a craft that I think I’ve mastered.?
Here was my challenge question:?How do I get better onstage??
So, I started watching some of the other speakers, just observing the way they were connecting. Here’s something I realized: I need to let go of PowerPoint.?
I don’t mean totally do away with it, but sometimes PowerPoint becomes a crutch with a ton of slides to say that you have all this information. How do I do fewer slides and rely more on insight and a heart connection with the audience?
I’m proud of taking a step back and reminding myself to let go. I’ve been here before, and I’m sure I’ll be here again.?
But I’m always astounded by what emerges when I return to a path I’ve been down before. I?always?learn something new about myself and find a different response or solution to a question I’ve asked myself before.
So, here’s what I want you to do:
If you’re having the same internal struggles today that you were having five years ago, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re learning new ways to respond and unlearn on your path forward.
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1 年Amen to that, can't pour from a full cup
Learning Strategy | Talent Development
2 年Love your insights and thoughts! I remember those days many years ago of sitting in Starbucks talking about design for your upcoming books and family things too!
Highly Effective Visual Merchandiser and Team Builder
2 年What a great reminder Dr. Simon...that it's a personal "continuous process improvement".
Bachelor of Commerce - BCom from Nizam College at Hyderabad Public School
2 年??????
Good stuff Dr- thank you