Why you can’t motivate yourself

“Why can't I motivate myself?“

“What is wrong with me?”?

“Why can't I just do what everybody else seems to do so easily?”?

These are the questions that I hear my clients ask very often. They're asking them in their own head though. The only time they really get out of their own head is when they're being coached by me, but they're still then asking the same questions.?

The answers are quite simple.?

Because actually, you're assuming that everyone else is doing all the things that you think you should be doing and they're probably not. And even if they are, what's it got to do with you? What other people are doing is none of your business.?

What you're doing is about your business, and that's what should be happening. So give yourself some thought right now…Is it valuable enough for you to create this business that you've been thinking about, working towards, worrying about, wanting, desiring, dreaming about, talking about, thinking about, feeling about? Is it? Is it important enough? Because if it's not important or valuable, you just won't. I know this for a fact. I know that because I've been there. I know it because I see it every day through the thousands of people I've coached. If things are not valuable enough, we just don't bother. It's too hard!?

Think about the things in your life that you've really, really wanted.?

I reflect back to my time when I learnt to drive. Oh, it was hard. I remember getting in the driving seat thinking I have no idea what happens with this car. Even though I’d been in a car thousands of times with my Dad, I didn't understand how to drive the car, and had to learn how to drive the car, had to feel what it was like to be in control of the car, to be responsible for my life and the driving instructor's life, and everybody around me. I had to accept that I just didn't know and that I needed to learn, and then I needed to practice. I needed to practice a lot and then have somebody tell me, “actually, you can do this”. I passed first time!

And the thing is in business, you don't know if you're practising the right thing, and you certainly haven't got anyone to tell you, “Oh, you've got this, you can do this, you're qualified now. Off you go. It's all safe. It's all certain you're ready to go”. And so where do you get that level of certainty? Who teaches you? Who trains you? Who guides you? Who's your driving instructor as you're learning business??

If you haven't got one, that's why you're stumbling around, looking in the car, working out what the gear stick does, trying to work out when you break, and actually, let's not even go into the theory behind it all that actually makes you safe on the road because there's lots and lots of unsafe places on the internet, lots and lots of things that are don't feel safe in marketing, and you simply won't do them if you don't feel certain, or safe, or motivated, or you don't value it enough.?

So it's possibly not a skill problem, it's a value problem - it's not important enough! Maybe you don't need the money, maybe you've got a partner that's earning the money, maybe you've got a fund from a job you've had, maybe you've got savings and you figure you'll just use those up for a little while until you work it out. If that is you, I can tell you what will happen is you won't learn, you won't motivate yourself, and you will use up your savings (and I know because I've been there) until you're absolutely desperate because you can't afford to carry on.?

And then what happens is you come at the whole thing with desperation, and let me tell you desperation stinks to anyone around you who is looking to purchase from you, work with you, be with you, buy from you. That desperation really isn't a place that we like to be. We like to be with somebody that we feel is confident and has got their shit together.?

So, do not allow yourself to get into that place before it's too late. Find the driving instructor for your business - find that coach, mentor, trainer, programme, mastermind, coaching programme that is essential to guide you in the right direction. Make sure you're learning YOUR WAY of how you're going to drive your business for life.?

And if you want me to be that person, then I'm really pleased to tell you that next month, you can do that with me for two hours a week in a group coaching, mentoring and training programme that I call my She-Thrives Coaching Mastermind. And you can do that for ust ￡99 for the first month, just to see if it's right for you, just to check it out, just to feel into it. And if it is right for you it’s then ￡299 a month. And that money is the best money you could ever invest in yourself, in your business.?

I mean, let's face it - driving lessons aren't cheap either. I know this because my wife's learning to drive at the moment. It's ￡65 for a lesson. So if she's having two lessons a week, it’s actually cheaper to join my Mastermind than it is for her to learn to drive each month. So just some food for thought there.?

If you're struggling, or you're feeling a bit lost, or you have no idea where you're going, what you should be doing, or you're trying so hard and putting lots of effort in and you're still not getting the traction you need, then maybe you need me and my She-Thrives program and I look forward to hearing from you.