Why We Stay Loyal to Communication Habits That Don't Work

Why We Stay Loyal to Communication Habits That Don't Work

Do you have a habit of responding to conflict by yelling, getting angry, or shutting down? Many of us tend to fall back on familiar but ineffective communication patterns, even when they don't serve us well. Why is that?

Often, we learn unhealthy relating as children and continue reacting the same way as adults, even when it damages our relationships. Anger frequently becomes our go-to emotion, even though it rarely resolves issues.

There is another way. With courage and intention, we can break old habits and learn new techniques to communicate our needs and set boundaries in a healthy manner. This not only transforms our closest relationships but also models positive ways of relating for the next generation.

Here are three key takeaways:

1. Commit to identifying one habit you want to change, whether it's yelling, passive aggression, or shutting down.

2. Seek support. You don't have to do this alone. Enlist a counselor, friends, books, or courses to learn new skills.

3. Focus on the rewards. Staying the same is costly to your mental health and relationships. Changing benefits everyone.

The familiar is comfortable, but change is possible. Are you ready to communicate in a new way?