Why Vulnerable Isn't a Sign of Weakness
Janeen Vosper - Brand Builder ??
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“It’s all good.
It’s all good.
No, no…I mean it.
What?
Oh I know because I missed the bus, I got trapped in the storm, caught the flu, missed out on that major contract and I got fired…but it’s all good.”
What the heck?
Maybe the scenarios haven’t been quite as extreme but I guarantee, you have at some time brushed off painful situations with a, “it’s all good”.
Certainly, this can be a ‘nice’ way of leaving things on a better note, redirecting your attention to look on the brighter side of things.
But how are you left really feeling?
How could it possibly be good?
Is it a knee jerk response given without much thought? Or, are we just being polite in not wanting to burden others. Maybe we believe the challenges in our lives are all part of a bigger plan and we believe it will be good in the end. Or maybe there are deeper motives of which we aren’t even aware?
Perhaps the reason we regularly brush off our true feelings is the fact that if we share them with someone, we feel we have then made a contract with that person. Obligated at some level to provide that person with something in return at some time in the future.
Warm wishes
Janeen
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2 年Janeen, thanks for sharing!
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This is such an important message to share! Thank you!