Why Truth Matters

I will be honest - I have never quite worked out LinkedIn. I don't know how to be or even if I need to be here at times and I dismay at the lack of transparency and honesty in some of the messages I am sent, though I do enjoy seeing the successes of others. The trouble is the pretend bits are coming up against changes occuring within myself. I am in the process of healing a ton of childhood trauma and as I release some of that, there is room for the new - or a reclaiming of the Maxine I really am and could be.

I am slowly getting back to my original direct and honest self - still a work in progress because of some fears, but I am finding it easier to speak and be more real. Sometimes, I can see being direct makes others uncomfortable and I have to resist back peddling, but I really do believe in a world of facades, deceit, false beliefs and lies we need Truth so much! I do believe that even if it feels crappy for a while that Truth will set us free - and I mean the universal truths that exist - and I do believe they exist.

I am sceptical about 'personal truths' as this if often bandied around as an excuse to dismiss someone else, or get away with being unkind. This is not the same as it being true for you personally that an event happened to you, but more the personal truths come through our own filters and agendas.

But I think there is plenty of evidence that universal laws and certainities exist. As there is a law of gravity, there is a law of cause and effect. In fact these laws themselves are evidence there are certainties existing (and I would add proof of an intelligent being behind everything). Even though it can feel hard to find, I believe there is A Truth about every issue, even if we haven't found it.

I struggle with my seeking and passion for truth in social media and certainly LinkedIn is included:

How real do I get?

People will think I am crazy, unqualified, uninteresting....

What parts of my myself are okay to share here?

What are my motivations for sharing what I do share?

How come everyone still has a profile photo from 10 years or more? (I am often shocked when I meet someone via a video) *note to self - my photo is 2 years old!

Why are we embarassed to be ourselves - especially our older selves?

When people message me to connect why aren't they transparent that they want to sell me something or themselves? If they were honest I might like what they have.

I am not important here so why say anything?

It's not kind or loving to pretend and yet we all feel we need to and its SO exhausting!! Well I'm exhausted, I can't speak for you, but I am so tired that I am now experimenting with just being me and confronting all the fears of humiliation, invisibility, judgement and attack.

We are all messy, we all have things to heal, we all can heal and in that process find more about who we really are and how we really want to be in this world. I have a friend who says that the biggest issue in the world is low self-worth and fear. We are all afraid we are terrible, we are all afraid we are as bad or terrible we were told by our caregivers, teachers etc as kids. Everyone in the world has different degrees of some kind of childhood trauma and so the world is being run by damaged children. We don't know our worth. We don't know we matter and that feels terrible.

So rather than feel that feeling and releasing it we run around doing a million other things to give ourselves 'worth' and feel better about ourselves or otherwise just find a way to numb out the pain. We lie to ourselves, to each other and for me, social media is an effect of this addictive need to prove ourselves, to prove we are 'loved' and that to seek approval. I have called facebook facadebook for years now. There are real people there and some being real, but I don't think we would even need such a place. If we all had worth, we would all do what we love and because our interests are as diverse as the human race we would provide all that is needed for us all to thrive. You may say I am a dreamer - well yes I am. Why not have a high standard of how I want things to be - how I believe things could be. If we can do so badly wrong, once we shift our will to doing things with love, we can go incredibly right.

So my challenge to you is what one thing can you do today that will be more honest, more truthful? Will it be updating your profile photo, feeling a bit vulnerable but doing it anyway? Will it be, being more honest with a work colleague (with kindness of course)? Or will it be telling your husband something you've been putting off for a while? Whatever it is, have a go - every day - dare to be more honest, more direct, more you.

It can feel terrifying, but the truth also exposes all that is not real or false. That's good isn't it?

LinkedIn won't let me share this YT video directly but here is a song I love called 'The Truth about the World.'

**In the name of transparency I have a blog I have written for many years - its raw, out there for many, but its about seeking truth, emotional healing, the secrets of the Universe: www.thetruthofitall.co.uk For me, the bigger understanding of life, the universe and myself is business - it impacts work and business in every moment so it's not wrong for it to be here.

Maxine