Why subtle body language packs a bigger punch than wild gestures

Good morning,

In a world that seems to hand out gold stars to the loudest person in the room, let’s take a moment to celebrate the silent assassins of communication.

I'm talking about those subtle, poised, and wildly effective speakers and presenters who don’t need to flap their arms like a windmill in a hurricane in order to make an impact.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I love a well-timed dramatic hand wave (bonus points if it involves jazz hands). I also love a confident eyebrow lift that could give Meryl Streep in The Devil Wears Prada a serious run for her money.

But there’s something super powerful about the person who can captivate an entire room with nothing more than a slight head tilt, a knowing micro-smile, or a pause so profound you could hear a pin drop.

So, why does subtle body language often steal the show? Let’s break it down:

1. Subtlety sparks curiosity

Picture this: Someone is flapping their arms around so wildly they look like they’re directing an aircraft carrier. Not very sexy. Whereas another person is simply leaning forward slightly... giving a slow, deliberate nod. Who are you more intrigued by? My point exactly. Subtle movements make people lean in — literally and figuratively.

2. Authenticity wins every time

Big, exaggerated gestures can sometimes feel forced, like someone took a weekend acting class and is now trying to be "charismatic". But quiet confidence? That’s the real deal. It’s like the difference between someone screaming “Trust me!” and someone simply locking eyes with you, steady and calm. No contest at all.

3. The power of the pause

What's one of the most underrated communication tools? Being still. In a world that’s always rushing, someone who can stand comfortably in silence — holding eye contact and keeping their posture strong — oozes an almost supernatural level of confidence. It’s like they’re saying, “I don’t need to throw my arms around to get your attention. You’ll give it to me anyway.”

4. It’s more inclusive

Not everyone feels at home with grand, sweeping gestures, and honestly, not everyone enjoys watching them either. A quieter, more natural approach to body language makes it easier for a wider audience to connect with you. And added bonus: You won’t accidentally whack someone in the front row while making a point.

5. Surprise factor = maximum impact

When someone always speaks with over-the-top gestures, it becomes background noise. But when a normally understated person suddenly uses a big movement or an exaggerated expression, it pops. It’s like the quiet person in the meeting finally chiming in — suddenly, everyone listens.

Now, I’m not saying you should stand there like a statue - body language is a critical part of communication. But sometimes, less really is more. The slight smile that puts people at ease, the pause that builds anticipation, the steady gaze that demands respect — all of these are wildly effective tools in your communication toolkit.

So, next time you feel the urge to go full Broadway performer with your gestures, take a beat. Stop. Pause. And remember: The best way to be heard isn’t always to be the loudest — it’s to make people want to listen.

Because in the grand theatre of communication, powerful communicators are masters of the subtle arts. Let the loud talkers have their flashy moments so you’ll be the one leaving a lasting impression.

Sending you courage, confidence, and lots of glitter,

Jordana xxx