Why is it so bumpy?

A romantic partner is the ultimate mirror.

Want to know what is in your backpack?

Commit to a long-term relationship. ????

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B + I met 24 years ago.

We got married after 4 years of dating.

We had the absolute BEST intentions.

There would be peace.

We would certainly get along great.

And most of all?

There would be no yelling.

Cue immense amounts of audience laughter because…

We had NO idea what was coming for us.

A romantic partner is the ultimate mirror.

And if you are unaware, there will be PAIN.

There will be tension. There will be chaos.

Your backpacks will battle.

It will be bumpy AF.

But, if you are aware, you can transmute it all to pure POWER.

To passion. To depth. To connection. To joy. To beauty. To healing.

Solidly on the other side of it now, I am sharing 3 truths about relationships:

? Your deepest wounds will reappear.

This is the point of the mirror. The other person is gifting you an opportunity to heal. To see it, to feel it, to hear it, to experience it again and, this time, move through it and beyond it. The catch? The gift won’t come in a wrapped box. There will be emotion and pain, and it will cloud your view. You either get caught in it, sometimes for YEARS, or you see through it so you can move beyond it.

? Opening your heart is not optional.

This is a doozy. For some people, me included, you are highly trained and conditioned to CLOSE your heart. You’ve closed your heart to protect yourself for years, even decades, and you might not even be aware. A closed heart is one of the biggest relationship squashers. To open your heart is to receive. To open your heart is to allow things to change. If you are feeling resonance with this right now, honor that nudge. The journey of opening your heart is not easy, but trust me, it is worth it.

? There will be letting go.

When you let go, you let it all in. Letting go of old experiences, stories, narratives, definitions, conclusions, memories, emotions, energy, identities. So much letting go. A divine sacred union will ask you to loosen your grip, again and again. To learn, to listen, to forgive, to evolve, to release, to forget. You will be called to the depths and as you go, remember: the deeper you dive, the higher you rise, always together.