Why Shouldn’t Care What Others Think About You?
Thinking too much of what others think of you ultimately changes what you think of yourself.
How is your self-esteem nowadays? Are you troubled by other’s opinions? Or, what do you think those opinions are others have about you?
Being a human we want to liked and accepted. But, it often leads to people worrying too much about what others are thinking about them. So, the excessive worrying can have a negative effect on your life. So, don’t let it prevent you from living your life to the fullest potential.
We all care too much what other people think of us. Some of the worth bearing points in mind next time someone says or does something disapproving. Just don’t care!
#1 It is None of Their Business as It is Not Their life, It is Your Life.
We can’t stop what people think. People entitled to think whatever they want, just as you entitled to think what you want. People’s thinking can’t change your thinking and you unless you allow them to. It is your life and you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices.
#2 What’s Best For Others May be Completely Worst For You
You should know that other’s opinion often based on their own activities and thinking. So, what is best for other, can be the worst thing for you. You never know your treasure may be garbage for others and vice-versa. Because we are unique in some or other way. So, only you know what is right or wrong for you.
#3 You’re the Only One Stuck With the End Result
You are sole responsible for the consequences of your decisions. No one else will be responsible for it. So, it doesn’t matter if your decisions influenced by others’ opinions or not. In the end, the outcome of your decision will affect your life completely. For example: If you buy something after someone’s recommendation and you didn’t like it. Then, you wasted your money and not others. You have to bear the loss incurred and live with it. When people give you their suggestions or even orders, there is no risk for them. They don’t have to live with your choices, but you do.
#4 People’s Thoughts Often Change
We are constantly changing. Similarly, our thoughts too changes with the time. We can’t stick with one thought every time as we need to adjust ourselves as per time and prevailing conditions. People’s thoughts, ideas and views change on a regular basis. It means even if someone dislikes you at the moment, then, next time there is a good chance he will like you soon. So, people’s thoughts don’t really matter.
#5 Life is Too Short
Everyone has one life to live and everyone is not so lucky to have a chance to live a second inning life. So, why would you spend it worrying about other people’s opinions? Live in the moment and live on your terms and conditions instead of living as per others’ T&C. Do whatever you want, be whoever you want. You’re not going to meet these people after you’re dead or they’re dead. Probably, you won’t even see them in a year from now. So, the life your life without bothering about other people’s thoughts about you. Enjoy and live your life to the fullest.
#6 You Reap What You Sow
If you keep worrying about what others think of you can become a self-fulfilling insight. People often indulge their need to liked so much that it starts dictating to the way they behave. Some become people-pleasers or subservient that many people turned off. Many times, the behavior you use as an attempt to ensure you liked may actually cause you to dislike by others. So, you reap what you sow.
#8 Harsh Truth- You Can’t Please Everyone
You should understand and accept the fact - you can’t please all the people all the time. You can’t live up to everyone’s expectations. So, there is no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. So, instead of pleasing others, start pleasing yourself first and then you may think to please others.
Summary
If you keep worrying about other’s thoughts, then it will become an unbearable burden for you. It can influence the way you live and think as your entire being influenced and controlled by other’s thoughts and expectations. To be perfect and ideal for others, you forgot to be realistic and unique in your own way.
So, it is better to stop giving a second- thought about other’s thoughts. Once you understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different. Then, you will see it your own eyes and not from others. Stop worrying about others’ thoughts and you will find out who you are and what are your own thoughts.
What you think of yourself is much more important than what people think of you.
Think About It!
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