Why “Why?” Should Be Your Favourite Question

Curiosity isn’t just for kids—it’s a life skill we all need to reclaim. Asking “Why?” can open doors, deepen understanding, and lead to better decision-making in every aspect of life, from relationships to work to your health.

Yet, somewhere along the way, most of us stopped asking. Why?

The Two-Year-Old Effect

Look at any two year old! Asking “Why?” is their superpower. At 2, asking why Is how you made sense of your world. But if you’re like most people, you were eventually told to stop—by parents, teachers, or even society.

At that tender age, our minds are like sponges, absorbing lessons that shape our programming for life. For many of us, one of those lessons was: Don’t ask so many questions.

But here’s the thing: You can reprogram yourself to ask why again.

Why "Why?" Matters

Asking “why?” keeps you curious, discerning, and engaged. It helps you avoid simply accepting what you’re told—from social media, the news, or even professionals. Here’s how it’s transformed my life:

1. Migraines When my migraines worsened, I asked my doctor, "Why?". Her response? A stronger prescription. That's not what I wanted. I found a naturopath who recommended hormone testing, and voilà—balancing my hormones resolved the issue.
2. Cancer Diagnosis When a surgeon recommended removing lymph nodes as part of my treatment plan, I asked, “Why?” The answer was to guide chemo and radiation protocols, which weren’t paths I intended to take. Understanding this helped me make an informed decision to decline having my lymph nodes removed and focus on emotional healing instead, with great results.
3. Standing Up for Myself Another doctor recently replied to my "Why?", with “I’m the doctor. You don’t ask questions.” My response? I left his office and never returned. It’s my body—I have the right to ask.

Why? In Everyday Life

You don’t need a health crisis to start asking why. Here are simple ways to bring this question into your daily life:

• In Relationships If your partner doesn’t want to go out one evening when you do, instead of reacting, ask, “Why would you rather stay home?” The answer might surprise you and avoid unnecessary conflict.
• At Work Ask why in order to develop better systems and processes, rather than just doing things the same old way. Ask why when a new product doesn't work, it's not failure, it's an opportunity for feedback!
• With Yourself Notice your behaviors and ask:

Why did I react that way?

What thought or feeling triggered this behavior? If the behavior serves you, great—keep it! If not, recognize it as an unconscious pattern you can change.

The Cost of Not Asking Why

I recently experienced poor customer service when a supplier missed my deadline by two weeks. They never asked why the deadline mattered, nor did they care when I explained it. Had they asked, they would’ve realized the ripple effect their delay caused—and could’ve fixed it and kept my business.

Asking “why?” shows you care. Whether you’re serving customers, leading a team, or raising a family, it fosters understanding and connection.

Reclaiming Your Programming

Many of our behaviors are driven by unconscious strategies created in childhood. These programs, like the one for walking, don’t just disappear. But the ones that no longer serve you can be updated—if you take the time to ask why and dig deeper into their origins.

Curiosity can rewire your unconscious mind to align with the life you want.

Start Asking Why Today

Want to explore your programming further? Listen to my podcast episode with Dr. Bruce Lipton https://youtu.be/7Jxsm_uBrK0 and join us for the Meet Your Unconscious Mind Workshop on January 14, 2025, at 10 AM Pacific.https://amplifyimpactacademy.com/trauma

Make “Why?” your new favorite question. It might just change your life.